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11-05-2009, 04:28 PM
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| | | If deadlines didn't matter, there would be no deadlines. There are prisoners who are serving years of hard time because they missed the appeal cut-off by a day.
It was necessary for your friend to take a certain action by a certain date, --or-- the court would do what the court does. He didn't. They did.
Do-overs are for fifth grade dodgeball. Consequences are for adults. |
11-05-2009, 05:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Dogmatique  But it's completely of his own doing - why should anyone else be held responsible?  If anyone has given his other family a "sentence" of any kind it's him, you know?
I wouldn't expect that, no - she'd have to go through the same rules as everyone else.
Kind of like we all have to do. | Who else would be held responsible? I don't understand. It would just be the exact same process as if he had submitted his info to begin with. It's just not at the exact time it was requested. Not one person would be inconvienced here; CSS would just perform the process they would have initially. Who cares?
It's not like he was running from paying, hiding his info, or trying to get out of this; just a simple mistake that should be able to be undone? Why is it right for her to get more than her fair share just because of a simple mistake? |
11-05-2009, 05:07 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Who else would be held responsible? I don't understand. It would just be the exact same process as if he had submitted his info to begin with. It's just not at the exact time it was requested. Not one person would be inconvienced here; CSS would just perform the process they would have initially. Who cares?
It's not like he was running from paying, hiding his info, or trying to get out of this; just a simple mistake that should be able to be undone? Why is it right for her to get more than her fair share just because of a simple mistake? | the state is getting their fair share. they want their money back. still none of your business.
HE is the one the goofed up. YOU are only the baby mama number two. |
11-05-2009, 05:09 PM
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Originally Posted by >Charlotte< If deadlines didn't matter, there would be no deadlines. There are prisoners who are serving years of hard time because they missed the appeal cut-off by a day.
It was necessary for your friend to take a certain action by a certain date, --or-- the court would do what the court does. He didn't. They did.
Do-overs are for fifth grade dodgeball. Consequences are for adults. | So now someone who pays child support is comparable to a prisoner?? Wow, I guess I live in a different world! There are many many many situations where adults get second chances. If you're on unemployment you have 1 week to report so you can get paid for that previous week and if you don't you miss out on pay for that week. Well, guess what?! If you call and tell them that you had a problem or forgot to do it they can and will make exceptions! Need more examples, let me know. |
11-05-2009, 05:13 PM
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Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano the state is getting their fair share. they want their money back. still none of your business.
HE is the one the goofed up. YOU are only the baby mama number two. | Again, yes it is my business, it affects my family. 'only the baby mama number two'? So because i'm number 2 means my child doesn't matter in any of this?? |
11-05-2009, 05:18 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Again, yes it is my business, it affects my family. 'only the baby mama number two'? So because i'm number 2 means my child doesn't matter in any of this?? | No, it means that YOU have no control over Dad's child support payments to previous children.
A simple mistake is forgetting to pick up your coffee at GenericBucks.
A simple mistake is not neglecting an apparently critical matter concerning the welfare of your child/ren.
We can sit here and justify it all until we're blue in the face - it doesn't change a darned thing.
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11-05-2009, 05:18 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Again, yes it is my business, it affects my family. 'only the baby mama number two'? So because i'm number 2 means my child doesn't matter in any of this?? | legally, it means your child gets a smaller piece of the pie. AFTER the first obligation has been fulfilled.
really, i think all OBGYN's and planned parenting offices should have a pamphlet warning all potential baby mama number 2's about this. they always seems shocked when they find this out. |
11-05-2009, 05:55 PM
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Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano legally, it means your child gets a smaller piece of the pie. AFTER the first obligation has been fulfilled.
really, i think all OBGYN's and planned parenting offices should have a pamphlet warning all potential baby mama number 2's about this. they always seems shocked when they find this out. | No, I'm not shocked. I know this. However, his first obligation is being fulfilled x 4. I don't care if she gets $200 and I get $100 and he would have money left to support himself and have a decent home for his children. When you decide to have children with the person you love and are committed to you don't say 'no thanks, you already had a kid so we don't deserve this happiness'. Sometimes things don't work out. A father has every right as a human being to try and start a new family and the new mother shouldn't decide against that based on the fact that he already financially supports another child. Where there's a will there's a way and both of these children will be well taken care of. (well i'm not so sure about his first b/c of the mother, but my baby sure will) |
11-05-2009, 06:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Dogmatique No, it means that YOU have no control over Dad's child support payments to previous children.
A simple mistake is forgetting to pick up your coffee at GenericBucks.
A simple mistake is not neglecting an apparently critical matter concerning the welfare of your child/ren.
We can sit here and justify it all until we're blue in the face - it doesn't change a darned thing. | You're right, I have no control over his previous payments. But I do have the ability to inform my self on the facts of the situation so I can help him get out of the jam he's in which will help me in the long run when I will need the support he won't be giving money away that is not deserved.
Read my resonse above yours to the other person. Like I said EVERYONE gets second chances and when it affects children there should be no question about it. Who cares if it was a simple mistake or a completely irresponsible act of stupidity? Why make children suffer just so the father can get taught a lesson? Now that's just true stupidity. |
11-05-2009, 06:02 PM
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11-05-2009, 06:07 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 You're right, I have no control over his previous payments. But I do have the ability to inform my self on the facts of the situation so I can help him get out of the jam he's in which will help me in the long run when I will need the support he won't be giving money away that is not deserved.
Read my resonse above yours to the other person. Like I said EVERYONE gets second chances and when it affects children there should be no question about it. Who cares if it was a simple mistake or a completely irresponsible act of stupidity? Why make children suffer just so the father can get taught a lesson? Now that's just true stupidity. | stupid is not paying attention to how many children you create to the point where you cannot survive. stupid is worrying about someone else's child support problem.
even if BabyMama#1's child support went down, it does NOT garuntee your's will go up.
either way, daddy needs another job. |
11-05-2009, 06:08 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 ...republicans... | newbies. |
11-05-2009, 06:08 PM
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| | Can I ask all of you a serious question? I'm not being sarcastic, I truely want to know.. What is your purpose on this website? I was under the impression that I would get straight up legal information. I got it from one person, but they still wanted to give their bitter, immature, one sided opinion. Is there anyone here who truely gives solid legal advice or does everyone just like to attack and argue? Seriously, I'm really really curious. I'm really curious from some of these comments that have been made on here if these people teach their children to be judgemental and closed-minded. Anyone care to respond? |
11-05-2009, 06:10 PM
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| | | Did you know he had another child and paid child support to the mother in that amount when you choose to get pregnant? If the answer is yes, stop complaining if he couldn't afford what he was paying on Child #1 and live, you can't expect him to take away from that child to support the new child.
P.S. Yes my husband pays child support for 3 other children and we have children as well, but let me tell you his child support gets paid first every month before the mortgage, electric anything, because he has a responsibility to those children. |
11-05-2009, 06:10 PM
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Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano stupid is not paying attention to how many children you create to the point where you cannot survive. stupid is worrying about someone else's child support problem.
even if BabyMama#1's child support went down, it does NOT garuntee your's will go up.
either way, daddy needs another job. | Again, this is my problem. And yes, when hers goes down, when I set up mine it will free up some money for my daughter. As of right now i'd be lucky to see $10. | |
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