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11-05-2009, 06:15 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317  Again, this is my problem. And yes, when hers goes down, when I set up mine it will free up some money for my daughter. As of right now i'd be lucky to see $10. | so either way dad gets no relief. well, that makes no sense. taking away money from the first child to go to the second child that daddyputshispenisineveryhoohaww created when he couldn't afford it.
you can't force dad to modify.
dad can't modify until the 24 months are up.
there is nothing you can do to control the situtation. |
11-05-2009, 06:16 PM
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11-05-2009, 06:17 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Again, this is my problem. And yes, when hers goes down, when I set up mine it will free up some money for my daughter. As of right now i'd be lucky to see $10. | There's no guarantee of that at all.
You've been here all day defending your stance that your child shouldn't have to suffer for something Dad did or didn't do.
Neither should that first child.
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11-05-2009, 06:23 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 No, I'm not shocked. I know this. However, his first obligation is being fulfilled x 4. I don't care if she gets $200 and I get $100 and he would have money left to support himself and have a decent home for his children. When you decide to have children with the person you love and are committed to you don't say 'no thanks, you already had a kid so we don't deserve this happiness'. | WRONG. That's ABSOLUTELY what two people need to do - they need to be realistic and consider every angle when it comes to planning a child. And if there is already a child with a previous partner then I'm sorry but yes, sometimes we DO have to make the difficult decisions even if it doesn't result in what we want. Quote:
Sometimes things don't work out. A father has every right as a human being to try and start a new family and the new mother shouldn't decide against that based on the fact that he already financially supports another child.
| Every human being has the right to have as many children THEY CAN AFFORD TO SUPPORT. These are CHOICES we make. Nobody is saying Mom or Dad shouldn't have a second family - but doing so should never be at the expense of either set of offspring.
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11-05-2009, 06:34 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 Can I ask all of you a serious question? I'm not being sarcastic, I truely want to know.. What is your purpose on this website? I was under the impression that I would get straight up legal information. I got it from one person, but they still wanted to give their bitter, immature, one sided opinion.  Is there anyone here who truely gives solid legal advice or does everyone just like to attack and argue? Seriously, I'm really really curious. I'm really curious from some of these comments that have been made on here if these people teach their children to be judgemental and closed-minded. Anyone care to respond? | The reality is that subsequent children generally get less in support as the first group. That IS the way of the world. When the first group ages out, the, MAYBE, there is an increase for subsequent children.
I live for many YEARS with an order of $50/ month cuz dad had a first commitment. And that was for multiple children. It was up to ME to support those children. Only when those children aged out AND dad finished paying that set of arrearages did I finally see a reasonable amount.
That is what happens in the LEGAL world.
FYI - if dad is working all those hours, then when he goes in for a modification - guess what? It is possible for the FIRST order to go up.
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11-05-2009, 06:36 PM
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Originally Posted by TinkerBelleLuvr The reality is that subsequent children generally get less in support as the first group. That IS the way of the world. When the first group ages out, the, MAYBE, there is an increase for subsequent children.
I live for many YEARS with an order of $50/ month cuz dad had a first commitment. And that was for multiple children. It was up to ME to support those children. Only when those children aged out AND dad finished paying that set of arrearages did I finally see a reasonable amount.
That is what happens in the LEGAL world.
FYI - if dad is working all those hours, then when he goes in for a modification - guess what? It is possible for the FIRST order to go up. |
ouch! i hadn't even considered that! |
11-05-2009, 06:41 PM
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Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano ouch! i hadn't even considered that! | I had...
..BTDT.
T-shirt is getting old and scraggly though.
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11-05-2009, 06:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Dogmatique I had...
..BTDT.
T-shirt is getting old and scraggly though. | oh smarty pants!! 
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11-05-2009, 06:43 PM
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Originally Posted by jul0317 ...republicans...  | Aw c'mon, no fair!
I'm not even a Republicrat. I'm a nothingican, I suppose. I can't even vote in this country. Sniffle.
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11-05-2009, 06:44 PM
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11-05-2009, 06:46 PM
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Originally Posted by TinkerBelleLuvr I'm still at work - only agua fria allowed at the moment. | Bombay Sapphire will be waiting 
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11-05-2009, 07:29 PM
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Originally Posted by janemc Did you know he had another child and paid child support to the mother in that amount when you choose to get pregnant? If the answer is yes, stop complaining if he couldn't afford what he was paying on Child #1 and live, you can't expect him to take away from that child to support the new child.
P.S. Yes my husband pays child support for 3 other children and we have children as well, but let me tell you his child support gets paid first every month before the mortgage, electric anything, because he has a responsibility to those children. | Yes i did know that when I chose to get pregnant. And if his support gets modified, its not taking away from the first child, the mother is getting a substantial amount more than she is entitled to because of paperwork not being submitted. WHEN they modify her order she will get exactly what she is entitled to and nothing more. What if your husband was paying 4x the amount he is paying now all because he stupidly didnt submit the paperwork on time? Would you try to find a way to get the order modified so your child could have what he/she needs? I don't know you but I couldn't think of one single person who would just sit back and say "oh well, he made a mistake so we're not going to look into this to see if we can fix it, too bad for our child, JACKPOT for the others!". |
11-05-2009, 07:35 PM
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Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano so either way dad gets no relief. well, that makes no sense. taking away money from the first child to go to the second child that daddyputshispenisineveryhoohaww created when he couldn't afford it.
you can't force dad to modify.
dad can't modify until the 24 months are up.
there is nothing you can do to control the situtation. | AGAIN, it would not be taking money away from the first child. It would be setting the order straight in the eyes of the law. They would set an amount that would actually be fair and just. Don't know if you missed it but the order that is set is NOT based on his actual financial info since he didn't submit it. And AGAIN, I found some info on the other site that states he CAN modify. AGAIN, not trying to 'control' the situation, just trying to find info that could fix this situation. Are you studying to be a lawyer or to work in law? hmm.. |
11-05-2009, 07:36 PM
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Originally Posted by janemc [url]http://www.supremecourt.ne.gov/rules/pdf/Ch4Art2.pdf[/url] | Thank you!!! I appreciate some ACTUAL legal direction instead of all this peniandhoohatalk. geez! |
11-05-2009, 07:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Dogmatique There's no guarantee of that at all.
You've been here all day defending your stance that your child shouldn't have to suffer for something Dad did or didn't do.
Neither should that first child. | Well apparently there is; someone gave me some REAL legal advice FINALLY instead of all this nonsense and bitterness and I found out that he can get it reviewed. AGAIN that first child wouldn't be suffering, especially in the eyes of the court if the mother got what she was actually entitled to instead of 4TIMES more than that. Right now that first child accidentally hit the lottery (well her mother did because she really doesn't and probably wont see a dime of that money in the form of new clothes, shoes, dance classes or whatever. But mom sure has fun spending hundreds on hair, nails and goin out drinkin with the gals!) But i'm sure in some of these peoples minds on here think that 'oh she deserves that because shes the first one involved here so if she gets 4times more, good, and screw everyone else involved'. | |
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