Not allowed to pursue child support again?
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
IN
Ok, we have kind of a crazy situation... so I will tell you briefly about it. When my husband and his ex wife divorced.. they agreed to a 50/50 no child support situation (even though attorneys told him it wouldn't work once he remarried, the kids started school, etc) But they made it work for a short time. In the decree they did make it say that she was responsible to pay him $13 a week for some reason.. I think because they discovered his other son wasn't actually his.. so it stated that he was the one responsible for the one that was. Over time, what the attorneys have said has happened.. he remarried, moved 45 minutes away and they started school and are getting very involved.. and want to be "home" more. Still, we provide for them, they never have to pack anything when they come to our house.. we provide a bedroom, an entire wardrobe, toys, and just everything they could need...as if they lived here all the time. We cover them on our insurance.. and to help compensate with the changes, we buy extra clothes and shoes to send to her, winter coats, haircuts, school supplies and everything they need (for both boys even the one who isn't his-he actually paid to adopt him well after the divorce was final). Well this past summer.. their mom decided to keep them every weekend for 6 weekends.. and we know she was lying about most of them.. she was getting their hopes up and lying to us so she could keep them. But then when it doesn't benefit her.. she is so back and forth. She is a habitual liar.. and has started using the children to lie too. We try to do our best to compensate though.. and now she is kind of threatening us about child support. She likes to make him feel guilty for things he can't control.
Well, here's the thing.. they divorced in 2007.. and in 2009 the were called to court because she lied to get TANF and stole the money..and it was saying she owed him money (the $13 a week for those years).. he agreed to waive what she owed him and she was forced to pay back the TANF money and close the account altogether. So they then redid the child support section of the divorce decree... stating that no one would pay child support to the other while they are doing the 50/50 thing. THEN... they had to sign a SEPARATE document saying that because she stole from TANF...they could not come back to them and apply for child support ever again within that county for these children. I'm confused because it doesn't say that in the new divorce decree document. But my husband tells me it was something separate that was just for that county..from that particular child support office. So, can they do that? Have you ever heard of this happening? Does it really mean she can't go after him for child support at all in that county? I mean I'm guessing... since the divorce decree is a state court ordered document.. and this thing they signed was not... it was just for that specific county (which she still lives in)... Is this something that would happen after someone steals money like TANF? I mean the modified court ordered document doesn't state it like that. But he said the lady explained this separate thing to them very clearly like they would never be eligible in that county again because of it? I'm just confused I guess.
Another thing-we have offered to let her claim him on her taxes.. but she says she can only claim 2 for some reason?? We are thinking because it will lower her welfare benefits if she claims him.. so that's whey she doesn't want to. But I don't know? It's all so weird to me.
Thank you so much!
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
IN
Ok, we have kind of a crazy situation... so I will tell you briefly about it. When my husband and his ex wife divorced.. they agreed to a 50/50 no child support situation (even though attorneys told him it wouldn't work once he remarried, the kids started school, etc) But they made it work for a short time. In the decree they did make it say that she was responsible to pay him $13 a week for some reason.. I think because they discovered his other son wasn't actually his.. so it stated that he was the one responsible for the one that was. Over time, what the attorneys have said has happened.. he remarried, moved 45 minutes away and they started school and are getting very involved.. and want to be "home" more. Still, we provide for them, they never have to pack anything when they come to our house.. we provide a bedroom, an entire wardrobe, toys, and just everything they could need...as if they lived here all the time. We cover them on our insurance.. and to help compensate with the changes, we buy extra clothes and shoes to send to her, winter coats, haircuts, school supplies and everything they need (for both boys even the one who isn't his-he actually paid to adopt him well after the divorce was final). Well this past summer.. their mom decided to keep them every weekend for 6 weekends.. and we know she was lying about most of them.. she was getting their hopes up and lying to us so she could keep them. But then when it doesn't benefit her.. she is so back and forth. She is a habitual liar.. and has started using the children to lie too. We try to do our best to compensate though.. and now she is kind of threatening us about child support. She likes to make him feel guilty for things he can't control.
Well, here's the thing.. they divorced in 2007.. and in 2009 the were called to court because she lied to get TANF and stole the money..and it was saying she owed him money (the $13 a week for those years).. he agreed to waive what she owed him and she was forced to pay back the TANF money and close the account altogether. So they then redid the child support section of the divorce decree... stating that no one would pay child support to the other while they are doing the 50/50 thing. THEN... they had to sign a SEPARATE document saying that because she stole from TANF...they could not come back to them and apply for child support ever again within that county for these children. I'm confused because it doesn't say that in the new divorce decree document. But my husband tells me it was something separate that was just for that county..from that particular child support office. So, can they do that? Have you ever heard of this happening? Does it really mean she can't go after him for child support at all in that county? I mean I'm guessing... since the divorce decree is a state court ordered document.. and this thing they signed was not... it was just for that specific county (which she still lives in)... Is this something that would happen after someone steals money like TANF? I mean the modified court ordered document doesn't state it like that. But he said the lady explained this separate thing to them very clearly like they would never be eligible in that county again because of it? I'm just confused I guess.
Another thing-we have offered to let her claim him on her taxes.. but she says she can only claim 2 for some reason?? We are thinking because it will lower her welfare benefits if she claims him.. so that's whey she doesn't want to. But I don't know? It's all so weird to me.
Thank you so much!
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