justasomebody
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma
Hello Everyone,
I apologize in advance for the possibility of this post getting too long; I'm not entirely certain what information is needed. I'll try to keep it short and to the point.
In 2012 I was awarded a court order for child support in the amount of $272.00 (Father claimed he was "unemployed" at the time but was working at the BX and in the process of enlisting). The order itself is multi-state and setup between Idaho and Oklahoma. Oklahoma has been a pain in the bum for the last four years! The first problem started when he wasn't paying his child support by the date stated within our order. He was paying it weeks later. I contacted the CS agency and asked why they were not automatically withholding the payment, as our order states will be done, and they informed me they wouldn't do that until AFTER he was in arrears or late a certain number of times. I found that odd since the order clearly states the payments are to be taken out of his paycheck, but let it go because the woman basically called me a liar. The next major pain occurred in 2014 when I requested that our son be placed on his fathers Tricare. Our order states that the parent that can provide health insurance at a cheaper rate will be responsible for provide said insurance. My insurance premium was $400, his is free. He's obviously legally responsible via order. The CS agency informed me he "wasn't" in the military and all but called me a liar until I brought in paperwork from DEERS showing his enlistment, active status, and his new address. He'd never reported ANY of it. As far as they were concerned he was still unemployed, living in his parents spare room, and playing video games all day. So I then had to provide them a copy of our court order, because they'd lost theirs, to prove that he was indeed responsible for our sons health insurance. They refused to help me handle the situation and my lawyer told me that I shouldn't make contact with him, so I had to go through his S Sgt, who let him send me invalid paperwork as far as the army is concerned because there is no date on it. So he's still NOT covering our sons health insurance and the state refuses to do a damn thing about it. The next problem occurred when I started comparing the states quarterly reports with the actual deposits made onto the Oklahoma CS card. According to the reports he's up to date on payments, if you look at the deposits actually made by him on the card he's in arrears by $500.00.When contacted the agency informed me there was nothing they could do. He refuses to help cover work related daycare expenses even though our order clearly states he'll be responsible to 50% of the cost, above and beyond our order. Then this year he decided to claim our son as his dependent. The child has never lived with him. He's never met our son. He's never contacted me about the well being of our son. He's never contacted me to show interest in our son, even though he has plenty of outlets to do so (social media, phone number, and the likes). But he somehow thinks that because he pays $3,000 a year, less than that when you take into consideration he's in arrears, he's entitled to claim my son as an exemption and get back his child support and then some. They also refuse to reevaluate the case. I've requested it be done TWICE in the last four years, because I know for a fact he's making more money, and they simply do not do their jobs.
Is there a way around dealing with Idaho and Oklahoma? (Other that moving out of the state. Which is honestly an option at this point. I'm fed up with their crap.) If there is no way around dealing with Oklahoma, how can I get them to do their job? I'm seriously over this. It's been a fight for four years and honestly the headache that it brings isn't worth the annual child support payment. Oh and can he claim our son on his return? I'm over this.
Hello Everyone,
I apologize in advance for the possibility of this post getting too long; I'm not entirely certain what information is needed. I'll try to keep it short and to the point.
In 2012 I was awarded a court order for child support in the amount of $272.00 (Father claimed he was "unemployed" at the time but was working at the BX and in the process of enlisting). The order itself is multi-state and setup between Idaho and Oklahoma. Oklahoma has been a pain in the bum for the last four years! The first problem started when he wasn't paying his child support by the date stated within our order. He was paying it weeks later. I contacted the CS agency and asked why they were not automatically withholding the payment, as our order states will be done, and they informed me they wouldn't do that until AFTER he was in arrears or late a certain number of times. I found that odd since the order clearly states the payments are to be taken out of his paycheck, but let it go because the woman basically called me a liar. The next major pain occurred in 2014 when I requested that our son be placed on his fathers Tricare. Our order states that the parent that can provide health insurance at a cheaper rate will be responsible for provide said insurance. My insurance premium was $400, his is free. He's obviously legally responsible via order. The CS agency informed me he "wasn't" in the military and all but called me a liar until I brought in paperwork from DEERS showing his enlistment, active status, and his new address. He'd never reported ANY of it. As far as they were concerned he was still unemployed, living in his parents spare room, and playing video games all day. So I then had to provide them a copy of our court order, because they'd lost theirs, to prove that he was indeed responsible for our sons health insurance. They refused to help me handle the situation and my lawyer told me that I shouldn't make contact with him, so I had to go through his S Sgt, who let him send me invalid paperwork as far as the army is concerned because there is no date on it. So he's still NOT covering our sons health insurance and the state refuses to do a damn thing about it. The next problem occurred when I started comparing the states quarterly reports with the actual deposits made onto the Oklahoma CS card. According to the reports he's up to date on payments, if you look at the deposits actually made by him on the card he's in arrears by $500.00.When contacted the agency informed me there was nothing they could do. He refuses to help cover work related daycare expenses even though our order clearly states he'll be responsible to 50% of the cost, above and beyond our order. Then this year he decided to claim our son as his dependent. The child has never lived with him. He's never met our son. He's never contacted me about the well being of our son. He's never contacted me to show interest in our son, even though he has plenty of outlets to do so (social media, phone number, and the likes). But he somehow thinks that because he pays $3,000 a year, less than that when you take into consideration he's in arrears, he's entitled to claim my son as an exemption and get back his child support and then some. They also refuse to reevaluate the case. I've requested it be done TWICE in the last four years, because I know for a fact he's making more money, and they simply do not do their jobs.
Is there a way around dealing with Idaho and Oklahoma? (Other that moving out of the state. Which is honestly an option at this point. I'm fed up with their crap.) If there is no way around dealing with Oklahoma, how can I get them to do their job? I'm seriously over this. It's been a fight for four years and honestly the headache that it brings isn't worth the annual child support payment. Oh and can he claim our son on his return? I'm over this.
