What is the name of your state?NY
Hello,
I have a question about support payments. My husband and I got married when his daughter was 14. During the year that she lived with us she repeatedly broke the house rules. my husband and I started finding letters that talked about underage drinking and using marijuana. My husband grounded her. To make a long story short she ran away to her maternal aunts house.(her mother died when she was little). Instead of telling her she needed to come back home her aunt dragged my husband into court and requested custody of her. She tried to get us into trouble with protective services. Unfortunately for her all of the accusations were unfounded. They were all blatant lies. My husband told the judge that if she really did not want to live with us(she threatened to run away) that she could stay with her aunt. The judge agreed, and said that my husband could visit with her at any time. At that time his daughter was receiving $700 some odd dollars in survivors benefits. My husband told the judge that if she was going to live there he was not paying additional child support because she left of her own free will and had $700 a month. The judge agreed to this. For the next 3 years we had very little contact with his daughter. When she turned 18(her survivor benefits stopped-coincidence?) her uncle picked several fights with her. The end result was that she left their home and moved in with a boyfriend. They lived together for a while and then when they broke up she contacted us. She said she had no way to move her stuff and didn't have anywhere to live. We told her that she was more than welcome to live with us. She refused. So we helped her find a trailer to live in about 5 minutes from us. She had a friend move in and they shared expenses. During that time we gave her money for food,bills,etc. She met a boy(picked him up off the street) and took him home. They have been together ever since.
My husband's daughter is now 19, she and her boyfriend lived in an apartment and she got pregnant. During the pregnancy we again gave them money, groceries,etc. After the baby they stayed with us through the month of September 2004. They moved in with us in October and stayed through the end of January. During this time she and her boyfriend became engaged and opened checking and savings accounts together. When her boyfriend started sleeping all day and not helping out and becoming mean to my children he was told that he would have to leave. Needless to say my step-daughter went with him. She was not told to leave. In fact she was told that she and the baby could stay with us.
Now we have received papers from family court telling us that we have to pay child support to her. Am I wrong to fight this. I don't feel that I or my husband should be obligated to pay child support to support her,the baby and her fiancee. He was fired from his job and she works 2 days a week. He also has another child(2yrs old) with another girl. So my money will probably go to pay his other child's child support so he won't go to jail and also allow him to lay around and do nothing. The fiancee is nothing but trouble.
My husband and I are going to see an attorney. We are fighting the support issue based on the fact that we have been providing her with money and support since she turned 18. Her aunt has completely dropped out of the picture(how convenient). I am looking for any advice any one has that could help me out. During the time that they lived with us I am positive that they were stealing money out of my purse.
I am completely frustrated with the whole system. As far as I am concerned she declared herself an adult and not in need of us the day her aunt was given custody of her. We have bent over backwards for her and are now being punished by NY state. At least now you know why our taxes are so high!
Hello,
I have a question about support payments. My husband and I got married when his daughter was 14. During the year that she lived with us she repeatedly broke the house rules. my husband and I started finding letters that talked about underage drinking and using marijuana. My husband grounded her. To make a long story short she ran away to her maternal aunts house.(her mother died when she was little). Instead of telling her she needed to come back home her aunt dragged my husband into court and requested custody of her. She tried to get us into trouble with protective services. Unfortunately for her all of the accusations were unfounded. They were all blatant lies. My husband told the judge that if she really did not want to live with us(she threatened to run away) that she could stay with her aunt. The judge agreed, and said that my husband could visit with her at any time. At that time his daughter was receiving $700 some odd dollars in survivors benefits. My husband told the judge that if she was going to live there he was not paying additional child support because she left of her own free will and had $700 a month. The judge agreed to this. For the next 3 years we had very little contact with his daughter. When she turned 18(her survivor benefits stopped-coincidence?) her uncle picked several fights with her. The end result was that she left their home and moved in with a boyfriend. They lived together for a while and then when they broke up she contacted us. She said she had no way to move her stuff and didn't have anywhere to live. We told her that she was more than welcome to live with us. She refused. So we helped her find a trailer to live in about 5 minutes from us. She had a friend move in and they shared expenses. During that time we gave her money for food,bills,etc. She met a boy(picked him up off the street) and took him home. They have been together ever since.
My husband's daughter is now 19, she and her boyfriend lived in an apartment and she got pregnant. During the pregnancy we again gave them money, groceries,etc. After the baby they stayed with us through the month of September 2004. They moved in with us in October and stayed through the end of January. During this time she and her boyfriend became engaged and opened checking and savings accounts together. When her boyfriend started sleeping all day and not helping out and becoming mean to my children he was told that he would have to leave. Needless to say my step-daughter went with him. She was not told to leave. In fact she was told that she and the baby could stay with us.
Now we have received papers from family court telling us that we have to pay child support to her. Am I wrong to fight this. I don't feel that I or my husband should be obligated to pay child support to support her,the baby and her fiancee. He was fired from his job and she works 2 days a week. He also has another child(2yrs old) with another girl. So my money will probably go to pay his other child's child support so he won't go to jail and also allow him to lay around and do nothing. The fiancee is nothing but trouble.
My husband and I are going to see an attorney. We are fighting the support issue based on the fact that we have been providing her with money and support since she turned 18. Her aunt has completely dropped out of the picture(how convenient). I am looking for any advice any one has that could help me out. During the time that they lived with us I am positive that they were stealing money out of my purse.
I am completely frustrated with the whole system. As far as I am concerned she declared herself an adult and not in need of us the day her aunt was given custody of her. We have bent over backwards for her and are now being punished by NY state. At least now you know why our taxes are so high!