What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? WA
I'm fairly new to the child support since my boys' father doesn't pay any support for the past 5yrs. Now I'm dating a man who I see myself marrying one day who has 3 kids 5, 9, 11. I'm all about having him support his kids which he does. In Jan she modified the support to include daycare which is fine since she was finally working. However we just found out that the provider she was using was an unlicensed neighbor friend and she's refused to give us any recipets showing what actual amount she paid her. Since finding that out we also found out that she was not working from mid April-May 7th and didn't pay daycare but from May 8-26 she used the friend again while working a temp job. She is now unemployed and says she is now paying a licensed daycare however the kids haven't gone there yet. I'm thinking a modification is in order...I feel she should provide proof of actual daycare expense since we have a feeling she didn't pay her as much as she says and to see about revising the past due daycare expense the state is saying he owes. (disputing that too since his support increased in Feb to support daycare but they say it hasn't been taken out for daycare from Jan-May) Should we have to support daycare expense when she's not working? And should we have to pay what she says and not what is acutal and to an unlicensed person? We get the kids now for the summer (most of it) and normaly we have them 2 weekends on, 1 weekend off, all 3 day holiday weekends, every other holiday and we can get them on her schedule time when she needs us to however she calls his mom often to take the kids on her weekend and not him (to spite him) but we get them after his mom picks them up. I'm hoping that within the next month we'll have funds enough to afford a lawyer to gain custody of them. We feel her lack of stable work history, some neglect which is just our observation (not bathing them often, inappoprate clothing ie: allowing a 5 yr old to wear no underware while wearing a skirt, not having daily meds for one of the kids) she even set up a gofund me account saying she needs money for rent so the kids don't lose their home. Which scares us that she will go to that level when we are here, willing and able to take the kids. He's beat down and worn out over the past few years with the courts...she got everything she wanted and he got screwed. She said some pretty incrediable things which were lies in court with no proof and they still sided with her in everything she wanted. He doesn't trust the system but I'm here now and am willing to put my money into getting a lawyer to get the proper care for the kids...I just need some insight in how the system works. Thanks!
I'm fairly new to the child support since my boys' father doesn't pay any support for the past 5yrs. Now I'm dating a man who I see myself marrying one day who has 3 kids 5, 9, 11. I'm all about having him support his kids which he does. In Jan she modified the support to include daycare which is fine since she was finally working. However we just found out that the provider she was using was an unlicensed neighbor friend and she's refused to give us any recipets showing what actual amount she paid her. Since finding that out we also found out that she was not working from mid April-May 7th and didn't pay daycare but from May 8-26 she used the friend again while working a temp job. She is now unemployed and says she is now paying a licensed daycare however the kids haven't gone there yet. I'm thinking a modification is in order...I feel she should provide proof of actual daycare expense since we have a feeling she didn't pay her as much as she says and to see about revising the past due daycare expense the state is saying he owes. (disputing that too since his support increased in Feb to support daycare but they say it hasn't been taken out for daycare from Jan-May) Should we have to support daycare expense when she's not working? And should we have to pay what she says and not what is acutal and to an unlicensed person? We get the kids now for the summer (most of it) and normaly we have them 2 weekends on, 1 weekend off, all 3 day holiday weekends, every other holiday and we can get them on her schedule time when she needs us to however she calls his mom often to take the kids on her weekend and not him (to spite him) but we get them after his mom picks them up. I'm hoping that within the next month we'll have funds enough to afford a lawyer to gain custody of them. We feel her lack of stable work history, some neglect which is just our observation (not bathing them often, inappoprate clothing ie: allowing a 5 yr old to wear no underware while wearing a skirt, not having daily meds for one of the kids) she even set up a gofund me account saying she needs money for rent so the kids don't lose their home. Which scares us that she will go to that level when we are here, willing and able to take the kids. He's beat down and worn out over the past few years with the courts...she got everything she wanted and he got screwed. She said some pretty incrediable things which were lies in court with no proof and they still sided with her in everything she wanted. He doesn't trust the system but I'm here now and am willing to put my money into getting a lawyer to get the proper care for the kids...I just need some insight in how the system works. Thanks!