stepmomIL said:What is the name of your state? IL
Is it part of the child support- or custodial parent's obligation to provide the children with clothes when they come to stay with me for the weekend?
That was a bit of a stretch, don't you think?outragedMOM said:Just a question, If CP/NCP sent kid over with nothing on then what would you do? Would you buy child some more clothes then, and return child naked?
No, you would buy them new clothes (for your house) and return them in what they came in, or just put them in a big t-shirt for the weekend.outragedMOM said:Just a question, If CP/NCP sent kid over with nothing on then what would you do? Would you buy child some more clothes then, and return child naked?
Send them back in what they came in. If she's not sending anything over, you shouldn't have to either.stepmomIL said:Gimme a break. Naked kids?!
No, when she sends nothing for the kids to wear we must go out and provide them with clothes- and then she expects us to send whatever we buy home with them--never to be seen again..and it starts over at the next visitation.
I would buy them new clothes, keep them and return them in the clothes she sent them in... don't send back the clothes you bought.stepmomIL said:Gimme a break. Naked kids?!
No, when she sends nothing for the kids to wear we must go out and provide them with clothes- and then she expects us to send whatever we buy home with them--never to be seen again..and it starts over at the next visitation.
I guess that was my point, you having clothes at your home for the child. I would not send the clothes that you purchase for the child home with child. Mom can get mad all she wants if you don't send them home, after all she has all his clothes at her house from CS money.stepmomIL said:Gimme a break. Naked kids?!
No, when she sends nothing for the kids to wear we must go out and provide them with clothes- and then she expects us to send whatever we buy home with them--never to be seen again..and it starts over at the next visitation.
I am from Illinois, When my son's go with their father I provide everything they need less food of course What type of jerk parent would send their child to another persons house (in this case their other parent) knowing that they will need more than the clothes on their backs, and neglect to send those items with them? Imagine what that poor kid feels like knowing that he or she doesn't have anything to wear the next day...It in my opinion, is a form of child abuse to put a child in a position where they feel as if they are a burden...That is like being the one who shows up to a party that they were told was a costume party and they are the only one dressed up....how humiliating! So in the short of it....YES the CP should provide clothes for the children!! It does not have to be in the order(at least as far as I know) I would think that it is expected! If you have an attorney I would have him send a letter stating that you expect appropriate clothing be provided for your weekend and if necessary ammend your visitation order to include proper attire... Sounds like your CP is a real piece of work!! Good Luck To You!!! Also, I would write down dates that you have gotten your child for the weekend or overnight and have not received appropriate clothing for that child...Also, if the CP does provide clothing be sure that it is returned at the end of each visit and vise versastepmomIL said:What is the name of your state? IL
Is it part of the child support- or custodial parent's obligation to provide the children with clothes when they come to stay with me for the weekend?
You know....I have a totally different, personal opinion (as was yours) on the subject. I believe that each parent should have clothing and "stuff" for their child at their home, and that only the child should be exchanged. I think it makes the child feel much more "at home" at each place if they have their own belongings there. I think that they feel much more like visitors when a bag is packed.critterperson said:I am from Illinois, When my son's go with their father I provide everything they need less food of course What type of jerk parent would send their child to another persons house (in this case their other parent) knowing that they will need more than the clothes on their backs, and neglect to send those items with them? Imagine what that poor kid feels like knowing that he or she doesn't have anything to wear the next day...It in my opinion, is a form of child abuse to put a child in a position where they feel as if they are a burden...That is like being the one who shows up to a party that they were told was a costume party and they are the only one dressed up....how humiliating! So in the short of it....YES the CP should provide clothes for the children!! It does not have to be in the order(at least as far as I know) I would think that it is expected! If you have an attorney I would have him send a letter stating that you expect appropriate clothing be provided for your weekend and if necessary ammend your visitation order to include proper attire... Sounds like your CP is a real piece of work!! Good Luck To You!!! Also, I would write down dates that you have gotten your child for the weekend or overnight and have not received appropriate clothing for that child...Also, if the CP does provide clothing be sure that it is returned at the end of each visit and vise versa