amanda pippin
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Alabama
I had legal custody of both of our children even though one of them lived with my ex. We had a verbal agreement that he would support one & I would support the other. When my oldest, who lives with me, turned 19, my ex filed for custody of the youngest, who lives with him. He now wants to modify our original legal agreement, which would have me paying support to him.
My question is, since my oldest is a full time college student supported by myself, can I also ask for a modification so that I would still be responsible fully for him, and my ex fully respnsible for my youngest son? Our original papers say nothing about this. They say until the child turns 19, graduates high school, or becomes emancipated in another way. I make about 1/3 as much money as my ex, and child support, plus all of the expenses for my oldest child's education would completely wipe me out financially. I was completely blind-sided by my ex with this. He told me he deliberately waited until our oldest turned 19 to do this, because of what our original papers said. He also plans to ask that I pay support for our younger son until he graduates college. He is now a freshman in high school.
I also have a jugdment against him in court from four years ago for back support that he has never paid. I could file for contempt, but the amount is so large that he would go to jail if I do. I do not want to do this. I know I sound like an ignorant wimp, and I probably am, but I am thinking about what this would do to my kids. I have never said anything bad to them about their father. I know he's an ass, but I think if I influence what they think about him, or if he ends up in jail over this, then I'll be the one that get's the blame later. He is very manipulative with the kids. I always end up being the bad guy. The older one knows better, but the younger one still thinks his dad hung the moon & can do no wrong.
I posted a thread about this earlier, but it was before I knew everything my ex had done and what his future plans were. I am trying to be as logical about this as I can, but my nerves are pretty rattled right now. I need some advice that will give me peace of mind until my lawyer can see me on Wednesday.
Thanks in advance,
Mandy Pippin
I had legal custody of both of our children even though one of them lived with my ex. We had a verbal agreement that he would support one & I would support the other. When my oldest, who lives with me, turned 19, my ex filed for custody of the youngest, who lives with him. He now wants to modify our original legal agreement, which would have me paying support to him.
My question is, since my oldest is a full time college student supported by myself, can I also ask for a modification so that I would still be responsible fully for him, and my ex fully respnsible for my youngest son? Our original papers say nothing about this. They say until the child turns 19, graduates high school, or becomes emancipated in another way. I make about 1/3 as much money as my ex, and child support, plus all of the expenses for my oldest child's education would completely wipe me out financially. I was completely blind-sided by my ex with this. He told me he deliberately waited until our oldest turned 19 to do this, because of what our original papers said. He also plans to ask that I pay support for our younger son until he graduates college. He is now a freshman in high school.
I also have a jugdment against him in court from four years ago for back support that he has never paid. I could file for contempt, but the amount is so large that he would go to jail if I do. I do not want to do this. I know I sound like an ignorant wimp, and I probably am, but I am thinking about what this would do to my kids. I have never said anything bad to them about their father. I know he's an ass, but I think if I influence what they think about him, or if he ends up in jail over this, then I'll be the one that get's the blame later. He is very manipulative with the kids. I always end up being the bad guy. The older one knows better, but the younger one still thinks his dad hung the moon & can do no wrong.
I posted a thread about this earlier, but it was before I knew everything my ex had done and what his future plans were. I am trying to be as logical about this as I can, but my nerves are pretty rattled right now. I need some advice that will give me peace of mind until my lawyer can see me on Wednesday.
Thanks in advance,
Mandy Pippin