mamashakesit
Junior Member
Minnesota / Arkansas
My child was born in Oregon. When she was a month old her and I moved back to MN. I was broke, living in a house I couldn't afford, I hadn't had a working vehicle in over 3 months (the engine blew up) and the father hadn't helped financially or emotionally, so I went back for my families help.
He ended up moving to Arkansas and getting a really good job. He convinced me he wanted to be part of the baby's life and pay half the expenses. He paid my first months rent and the deposit, since he owed me money for bailing him out of jail (let the groans begin but it gets way worse). Within less then a month, it was obvious he had no intentions of helping and I hated the place he had found me. I decided to move back to MN. When he found out, he came over, threatened he was going to file an ex parte case, saying he was going to take the baby away from me and declare me an unfit mother. He had loaned me a company laptop and dialed into it remotely and got into my email, Facebook, everything. He got my child support worker on the phone and told her that I was sitting right there and we were working out the case ourselves and I wanted to cancel. Out of fear of what he was threatening, I did. He scared the crap out of me, but it turned out all to be a big show. He even laughed about his acting ability later.
I left and went back to MN. Reactivated my CS case. While there, I tried really hard to find a job. I was pretty depressed and let down at this point and my dad and I weren't getting along. Never even got an interview call in MN...but I got a job I had applied for in Arkansas. My ex of course said nothing would make him happier if we'd move back there, he would never let us drown financially and would help with childcare. He helped me find a place and said he would help with anything over $600 if I couldn't make it so I could get a nice place. So I took the job and moved back down. Don't think I need to say much more...you probably already know what happened. He's not helping with daycare, diapers, food anything. And now that I'm back I'm just a "white trash, lazy, welfare, meal-ticket searching, piece of s**t."
I talked to a lawyer and realized I made a huge error...I thought I would have to file CS in whatever state I was in. So before I left I cancelled my order. The first time I'd lived here, I didn't cancel because I figured nothing could go through with me living out of state and I hadn't gotten around to writing them the request (they didn't like that very much; learned my lesson). It will take 6 months just for Arkansas to establish jurisdiction. So will MN let me open my case back up? They were getting very close to getting an order. To have to start all over would be devastating. I have nearly drained my savings account paying for daycare and all my expenses on my own. I don't know how long I can make it. Sorry this is so long.
My child was born in Oregon. When she was a month old her and I moved back to MN. I was broke, living in a house I couldn't afford, I hadn't had a working vehicle in over 3 months (the engine blew up) and the father hadn't helped financially or emotionally, so I went back for my families help.
He ended up moving to Arkansas and getting a really good job. He convinced me he wanted to be part of the baby's life and pay half the expenses. He paid my first months rent and the deposit, since he owed me money for bailing him out of jail (let the groans begin but it gets way worse). Within less then a month, it was obvious he had no intentions of helping and I hated the place he had found me. I decided to move back to MN. When he found out, he came over, threatened he was going to file an ex parte case, saying he was going to take the baby away from me and declare me an unfit mother. He had loaned me a company laptop and dialed into it remotely and got into my email, Facebook, everything. He got my child support worker on the phone and told her that I was sitting right there and we were working out the case ourselves and I wanted to cancel. Out of fear of what he was threatening, I did. He scared the crap out of me, but it turned out all to be a big show. He even laughed about his acting ability later.
I left and went back to MN. Reactivated my CS case. While there, I tried really hard to find a job. I was pretty depressed and let down at this point and my dad and I weren't getting along. Never even got an interview call in MN...but I got a job I had applied for in Arkansas. My ex of course said nothing would make him happier if we'd move back there, he would never let us drown financially and would help with childcare. He helped me find a place and said he would help with anything over $600 if I couldn't make it so I could get a nice place. So I took the job and moved back down. Don't think I need to say much more...you probably already know what happened. He's not helping with daycare, diapers, food anything. And now that I'm back I'm just a "white trash, lazy, welfare, meal-ticket searching, piece of s**t."
I talked to a lawyer and realized I made a huge error...I thought I would have to file CS in whatever state I was in. So before I left I cancelled my order. The first time I'd lived here, I didn't cancel because I figured nothing could go through with me living out of state and I hadn't gotten around to writing them the request (they didn't like that very much; learned my lesson). It will take 6 months just for Arkansas to establish jurisdiction. So will MN let me open my case back up? They were getting very close to getting an order. To have to start all over would be devastating. I have nearly drained my savings account paying for daycare and all my expenses on my own. I don't know how long I can make it. Sorry this is so long.
