geekster2K
Junior Member
What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? VA
This is my first time bringing this up to anyone, anywhere in any form or fashion.
I was divorced in 1994, 2 children, court awarded my then spouse custody and CS based on my then salary.
Fast forward 2005.
My salary has gone up about $50,000, at times. I'm remarried to a woman with a child. She (new wife) had quite a bit of bills I incurred.
Now a little about my ex, we got divorced because of her mood swings which as best as I can tell she is probably bipolar. For instance, I have offered and offered till I'm blue in the face to put the children on my health insurance, but she swears i am trying to trick her. Fact is, even if I did she will not use it when needed. I have offered to up my child support (as the amount I have been paying is way way way under what I should be) but she refuses.
So, now she has become conscious of the fact that I should be paying her more money, I send her more she gets mad, I swear. I have never missed a support payment and always help with anything for the children whenever they need it (albeit they don't like me as Mom poisoned them against me, but that's another story).
Currently I am out of the country making a fairly large salary. I am sending her double my latest child support and I haven't heard anything yet. I told her before I left I would pay her "X" amount for one year, while I am making my new salary and then pay her "Y" amount ($500 less than "X" and $250 more than old) when I return. Also, I am also starting a college fund for both of my children and plan on having $10K for each when I return.
I'm pretty much stressed out as when her law school (but not lawyer) brother realizes where I am, what I do he may or may not take me to court.
They know that I'm not a bad person, and the difficult person she could be. I want to keep this out of court and settle on a amount. BUT, should they decide to take me to court, asides from making me legally up my child support to VA guidelines, what else can I expect.
I await the tribunal.
Regards,
Geekster2K
This is my first time bringing this up to anyone, anywhere in any form or fashion.
I was divorced in 1994, 2 children, court awarded my then spouse custody and CS based on my then salary.
Fast forward 2005.
My salary has gone up about $50,000, at times. I'm remarried to a woman with a child. She (new wife) had quite a bit of bills I incurred.
Now a little about my ex, we got divorced because of her mood swings which as best as I can tell she is probably bipolar. For instance, I have offered and offered till I'm blue in the face to put the children on my health insurance, but she swears i am trying to trick her. Fact is, even if I did she will not use it when needed. I have offered to up my child support (as the amount I have been paying is way way way under what I should be) but she refuses.
So, now she has become conscious of the fact that I should be paying her more money, I send her more she gets mad, I swear. I have never missed a support payment and always help with anything for the children whenever they need it (albeit they don't like me as Mom poisoned them against me, but that's another story).
Currently I am out of the country making a fairly large salary. I am sending her double my latest child support and I haven't heard anything yet. I told her before I left I would pay her "X" amount for one year, while I am making my new salary and then pay her "Y" amount ($500 less than "X" and $250 more than old) when I return. Also, I am also starting a college fund for both of my children and plan on having $10K for each when I return.
I'm pretty much stressed out as when her law school (but not lawyer) brother realizes where I am, what I do he may or may not take me to court.
They know that I'm not a bad person, and the difficult person she could be. I want to keep this out of court and settle on a amount. BUT, should they decide to take me to court, asides from making me legally up my child support to VA guidelines, what else can I expect.
I await the tribunal.
Regards,
Geekster2K