Split custody

[STEPUPORSITDOWN]

What is the name of your state?
Colorado

I am looking for advice regarding several issues with 50/50 custody.

Background:
Custody is split 50/50
CS is paid to one party for 2 boys, $170.00 per month.

Here are the issues or questions.

1) Even though he pays CS he never takes care of incidental shopping needs while he has the children. When they need school supplies or supplies for school projects she has to make sure it is taken care of.
When the boys ask about new clothes, shoes he responds "thats what I pay your mom CS for"
2) She constantly has to cover responsibilites he has to the boys during their stay with him because its his bowling night or he has some other excuse.
Now I understand that she loves them and will not make them suffer because he is selfish but I dont feel like its fair and that he is taking advantage of her.
3) The oldest son recently had a fight with his father.To make a long story short, the father grabbed him forcefully by the neck and arm and "kicked" him out of the house.

Does the father have a responsibility to provide for his sons regardless of CS?

Am I crazy to feel like this is wrong?

What options if any do we have if any?What is the name of your state?

 

[moburkes]

Who are YOU in this party?

 

[STEPUPORSITDOWN]

I'm the mothers fiance

 

[Silverplum]

Who are YOU in this party?

I'm gonna go waaaay out on a limb and guess it's Mom's bf/so/h.

 

[CJane]

What is the name of your state?
Colorado

I am looking for advice regarding several issues with 50/50 custody.

Background:
Custody is split 50/50
CS is paid to one party for 2 boys, $170.00 per month.

Here are the issues or questions.

1) Even though he pays CS he never takes care of incidental shopping needs while he has the children. When they need school supplies or supplies for school projects she has to make sure it is taken care of.

So?

When the boys ask about new clothes, shoes he responds "thats what I pay your mom CS for"

And he's right.

2) She constantly has to cover responsibilites he has to the boys during their stay with him because its his bowling night or he has some other excuse.

What responsibilities? And what do you mean by 'constant'?

Now I understand that she loves them and will not make them suffer because he is selfish but I dont feel like its fair and that he is taking advantage of her.

You're not going to like this, but what you 'feel' about her relationship with the father of her children is irrelevant legally.

3) The oldest son recently had a fight with his father.To make a long story short, the father grabbed him forcefully by the neck and arm and "kicked" him out of the house.

How old is the oldest son? Was he injured?

Does the father have a responsibility to provide for his sons regardless of CS?

Legally? Only if ordered to.

Am I crazy to feel like this is wrong?

I dunno about crazy, but it sounds petty.

What options if any do we have if any?What is the name of your state?

Suck it up.

 

[moburkes]

I'm the mothers fiance

Maybe the FA crystal ball that I borrowed from rmet ISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS working today.


The answer to your quesitons above is: None of your business.

 

[Silverplum]

1. Use the SEARCH function to answer this q.

2. What responsibilities is she covering? Does she have a ROFR in her CO?

3. What's the q here??

What is the name of your state?
Colorado

I am looking for advice regarding several issues with 50/50 custody.

Background:
Custody is split 50/50
CS is paid to one party for 2 boys, $170.00 per month.

Here are the issues or questions.

1) Even though he pays CS he never takes care of incidental shopping needs while he has the children. When they need school supplies or supplies for school projects she has to make sure it is taken care of.
When the boys ask about new clothes, shoes he responds "thats what I pay your mom CS for"
2) She constantly has to cover responsibilites he has to the boys during their stay with him because its his bowling night or he has some other excuse.
Now I understand that she loves them and will not make them suffer because he is selfish but I dont feel like its fair and that he is taking advantage of her.
3) The oldest son recently had a fight with his father.To make a long story short, the father grabbed him forcefully by the neck and arm and "kicked" him out of the house.

Does the father have a responsibility to provide for his sons regardless of CS?

Am I crazy to feel like this is wrong?

What options if any do we have if any?What is the name of your state?

 

[STEPUPORSITDOWN]

Maybe the FA crystal ball that I borrowed from rmet ISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS working today.


The answer to your quesitons above is: None of your business.

How is it none of my business when it affects ALL of us in the house?

 

[moburkes]

It doesn't affect your household at all. Your fiancee chose to have a child with this person. What happens to this child is between the parents of said child. YOU KNEW, going in to this situation, that your fiancee had this child. You chose to continue the relationship. Your problem, not dad's.

 

[STEPUPORSITDOWN]

1. Use the SEARCH function to answer this q.

2. What responsibilities is she covering? Does she have a ROFR in her CO?

3. What's the q here??

We provide everything they need and more.
I dont know what ROFR stands for.

If custody is split 50/50 are both parties equally responsible for providing for the needs of the children?

 

[ceara19]

How is it none of my business when it affects ALL of us in the house?

Because YOUR name isn't in THEIR court order. If you want to get involved, maybe YOU should be the one paying for their school supplies.

 

[Silverplum]

We provide everything they need and more.

Good. That's called "parenting."

I dont know what ROFR stands for.

Do you know what a SEARCH FUNCTION is for?

If custody is split 50/50 are both parties equally responsible for providing for the needs of the children?

Depends upon the court order. What EXACTLY does it state?

 

[CJane]

We provide everything they need and more.
I dont know what ROFR stands for.

If custody is split 50/50 are both parties equally responsible for providing for the needs of the children?

ROFR = Right of first refusal. This means that mom gets first opportunity to keep the kids if dad doesn't have them.

Mom COULD refuse to keep the kids on Dad's bowling night. She's not forced to do anything.

Both parties are equally responsible for providing for the NEEDS of the children. That is, food, shelter and clothing. Dad is providing a house, I assume he feeds them, and they don't run around naked while at his house. Anything above and beyond that is discretionary, just as it would be if mom and dad were still married.

 

[Silverplum]

How is it none of my business when it affects ALL of us in the house?

One more time with the need to use the SEARCH FUNCTION and familiarize yourself with family law.

 

[STEPUPORSITDOWN]

So?



And he's right.



What responsibilities? And what do you mean by 'constant'?



You're not going to like this, but what you 'feel' about her relationship with the father of her children is irrelevant legally.




How old is the oldest son? Was he injured?


Legally? Only if ordered to.



I dunno about crazy, but it sounds petty.



Suck it up.

So youre telling me that because he pays CS he is not responsible to provide for his children when he has 50/50 custody durring the time they are with him?

Meetings, practices, games, appointments .More often than not.

He is 16. No he was not hurt physically.

I guess it may if you are not the one it affects.