I get all the legal reasoning for how they figure child support. And we have no intention of sending my daughter to her moms without involvjng our lawyers and the courts. I was just curious how they figure support in a complicated situation. I dont feel one family should be made financially unstable when we both run our families similarly. We are both blended families, with kids from two relationships and have moms that stay at home. I don't think it is unreasonable for me to be concerned about the financial stability of my family. No one is trying to get out of paying child support! All parties knew what they signed up for and all the kids need to be able to be provided for. One family should not get more money than they need while the other suffers. Why am I a bad person because I stay at home and raise four kids but she is not? Everyone is so concerned for the step father but who cares about the step mom and her kids (step included) because she doesn't have a job? And I fully consider all four kids as ours I only said step in my posts to make it clear who I was speaking about. I obviously should not have posted my question on this forum. This is ridiculous!
Where did anyone write the step father is more important than you? All anyone had said is that the two people whose incomes are considered are MOM and DAD. So if one of the two makes a lot more money, they will be paying more. Depending on the state, other dependants might be considered. Mom, dad, stay at home parent or millionaire, that is a fact. In that way, you are step dad are exactly equal.
Look. You calling her your daughter doesn't make it so. She is your step daughter. You do not have custody along with your husband. You just don't.
I'm not trying to be mean. I have three dads and I call them all dad, but only one of them physically participated in my creation. It isn't that step families do not matter in real life, but legally, you have nothing to do with the custody or child support calculations for your STEP children. My husband was the main father figure in my oldest daughters life since age two. Is his income considered for child support? Is he on our custody order? Did I ever allow him to butt into issues with my daughter's dad? NO. Step mom on the other hand was a real hands on prize. And now. At age 19 my daughter barely speaks to her own father because of the interfering he allowed step mom to do.
You are clearly emotional about this, but emotion has no place in the law,