Hello. We live in SC.
When I got pregnant we went to the first OB-GYN appointment together with my husband. We filled paperwork together and talked to the doctor together. The only what I knew at that moment was 3 cases of cleft leap and cleft pallet on my husband's side. Doctor assured us that our chance to have child with that genetic disorder is very low because there no other problems and no problems in my family. Later we discussed our doctor visit with my husband's mother. She assured me that that is the only problem that seems to be running in their family. I was concerned, but ultrasound didn't show any abnormalities. We start having problems with our baby girl when she was 6 month old. By 9 moths she already was in physical and occupational therapies, and was taking medication to help with her chronic constipation. She was delayed in all areas of development. My mother-in-law notified me that nothing to worry because my husband had some developmental delays as a child. By age 2 we had a diagnosis of autism and several month later we had a genetic test done that showed that our little girl has a very rare genetic disorder, she is missing a piece of chromosome 8. This past summer my mother-in-law slowly starts telling me about different problems that her family is having. I confronted her that my husband's two cousins are albino, not a light skin as I was told earlier. Along with that I learned that my mother-in-law has a bipolar with manic depression disorder and slow colon (she was suggested to have it removed), my husband's sister and albino cousin have a "painful balder syndrome" they are both in their 20s, another albino cousin has a severe case of ADHD, My husband's sister has condition that doctors cannot diagnose, her body attacks her joints, she is constantly in pain, she takes medication not to have her period because it too painful for her. About 3 people in that family have heart mummer. That is on top of 3 cases of cleft leap/pallet and my husband childhood developmental delays and constipation as a child (now he has IBS).
I am shocked by my discovery. Two out of three people in my husbands family have multiple disorders that have genetic tendencies. The most shocking is that I found out about it 4 years later than I should have, considering that besides OB-GYN we saw a genetic doctor twice. My mother-in-law didn’t tell anything about her family even thou she new that we went to the genetic counseling both times, she didn’t tell anything even after our daughter was diagnosed with genetic disorder. I feel that it all was intentionally hidden from me. I work 3 hours a day and on the weekends so that I could take my child to the different therapies in our rehabilitation center. I asked my mother-in-law several times to help me to take care of our child. Her responses was "I am shopping”, “She is not my responsibility”, "I raised my children now is your turn". I asked her why she didn't tell me about all the genetic problems that run in her family. She told me “You already were pregnant, what's the point of telling?". During our last genetic doctor visit when we discussed all the new information about my husbands family doctor agreed that amount of people with genetic problems are concerning, but it appear to be no connection to our daughter disorder, other words science cannot tell. I fell that genetic test could had been done while I was pregnant if we knew that situation is that serious. Her genetic disorder could be diagnosed while I was pregnant and honestly I don't have problem with abortion if child will be disabled for life.
Is there any ground or legal reason to sue my mother-in-law for punitive damages and child support?
It is very expensive to have a disabled child; we constantly need to buy materials to run her ABA therapies at home. We have a government sponsored ABA therapy until our daughter turns 8 years old. It cost approximately $3000 a month to run ABA at home. On top of caring for disable child I have a grieving depression for the last 2 years.