What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC
You probably remember me, as you all held my hand through the adoption of my newest son ( who is doing fabulous!).
New Drama.
My son's girlfriend is pregnant. He admits to having unprotected sex with her, so this child is probably his child. The baby is due one month AFTER my son's 18th birthday.
I understand that since my son is a minor, his father and I will be legally responsible for his portion of the child's monetary needs. But, for how long are we legally (not morally) responsible? Of course, I will help in anyway possible after he is 18, so long as my son is doing what he needs to do.
My son has always been a good student, and graduated high school early. So, he is scheduled to start college in the fall. Right now, the plan is for his father and I to aid him in his expenses so long as he is doing well in college, and working part time. If he does not uphold his end of that deal, then the money will stop, so long as that is a legal option for us after he is 18.
The greater issue/concern that I have right now is the motives of the mother of this child. She has decided that she is not going to allow my son to sign the birth certificate or affidavit of paternity because she is on medicaid. She knows that if she "allows" my son to claim their child as his own, that the state will go after "her" child support, and wishes that "her" child support be paid directly to her, so that the state doesn't get any of "her" money. I'm not really cool with this, and neither is my son. Not only does it infringe on his status as father of this child, I *think* it would constitute as fraud.
So, with that said, since my son will still be a minor at the time of the child's birth, who requests the paternity test? My son or my husband and I? Or do we wait a month and have my son do it when he turns 18?
She has also decided that my son will not be allowed visitation away from her for at least a year, because she intends to breast feed. Be proud of me, I'm keeping my mouth (mostly) shut there, since that is my son's fight and not mine. Couldn't help myself though, I bought her a very nice breast pump and wrapped it with a pretty bow.
sigh.
You probably remember me, as you all held my hand through the adoption of my newest son ( who is doing fabulous!).
New Drama.
My son's girlfriend is pregnant. He admits to having unprotected sex with her, so this child is probably his child. The baby is due one month AFTER my son's 18th birthday.
I understand that since my son is a minor, his father and I will be legally responsible for his portion of the child's monetary needs. But, for how long are we legally (not morally) responsible? Of course, I will help in anyway possible after he is 18, so long as my son is doing what he needs to do.
My son has always been a good student, and graduated high school early. So, he is scheduled to start college in the fall. Right now, the plan is for his father and I to aid him in his expenses so long as he is doing well in college, and working part time. If he does not uphold his end of that deal, then the money will stop, so long as that is a legal option for us after he is 18.
The greater issue/concern that I have right now is the motives of the mother of this child. She has decided that she is not going to allow my son to sign the birth certificate or affidavit of paternity because she is on medicaid. She knows that if she "allows" my son to claim their child as his own, that the state will go after "her" child support, and wishes that "her" child support be paid directly to her, so that the state doesn't get any of "her" money. I'm not really cool with this, and neither is my son. Not only does it infringe on his status as father of this child, I *think* it would constitute as fraud.
So, with that said, since my son will still be a minor at the time of the child's birth, who requests the paternity test? My son or my husband and I? Or do we wait a month and have my son do it when he turns 18?
She has also decided that my son will not be allowed visitation away from her for at least a year, because she intends to breast feed. Be proud of me, I'm keeping my mouth (mostly) shut there, since that is my son's fight and not mine. Couldn't help myself though, I bought her a very nice breast pump and wrapped it with a pretty bow.
sigh.