antoniomelandri
Junior Member
What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Texas
I'll be telegraphic but hopefully clear:
Child is 1 1/2 years old, born out of wedlock from a rather casual relationship. DNA proved paternity. Child and mother live about 300 miles from me. Had temporary court order now expired. Mother managed to let me see the child only twice. Paid a LOT of money to take her to court three times.
Now my attorney filed a paternity suit. The mother failed to respond, but on an email she proposed termination.
Questions: if I accept termination: how many chances under these circumstances that the judge will grant it? Since even with the temp court order I could not get the mother to cooperate, what is the point of continuing to pay this much in attorney fees and all kinds of support? What chances do I have that a court might actually sanction a single mother, with a precarious job situation, for failing to grant visitation? If I terminate, but also offer voluntary contributions, and since the mother has been so keen on getting the money, could I use the voluntary contributions to get access to the child? ("no money this month, unless..." ) If I use that sort of leverage, while we had termination, could the mother accuse me of harassment? Incidentally, the mother has been highly erratic, and everyone who has dealt with her believed that she was mentally unstable. At the same time, she was married before and she could find a stepfather for the child. It all comes down to how I can get a bit of leverage without driving myself bankrupt (which is what I'm doing with the current full support plus taking her to court countless times). AM
I'll be telegraphic but hopefully clear:
Child is 1 1/2 years old, born out of wedlock from a rather casual relationship. DNA proved paternity. Child and mother live about 300 miles from me. Had temporary court order now expired. Mother managed to let me see the child only twice. Paid a LOT of money to take her to court three times.
Now my attorney filed a paternity suit. The mother failed to respond, but on an email she proposed termination.
Questions: if I accept termination: how many chances under these circumstances that the judge will grant it? Since even with the temp court order I could not get the mother to cooperate, what is the point of continuing to pay this much in attorney fees and all kinds of support? What chances do I have that a court might actually sanction a single mother, with a precarious job situation, for failing to grant visitation? If I terminate, but also offer voluntary contributions, and since the mother has been so keen on getting the money, could I use the voluntary contributions to get access to the child? ("no money this month, unless..." ) If I use that sort of leverage, while we had termination, could the mother accuse me of harassment? Incidentally, the mother has been highly erratic, and everyone who has dealt with her believed that she was mentally unstable. At the same time, she was married before and she could find a stepfather for the child. It all comes down to how I can get a bit of leverage without driving myself bankrupt (which is what I'm doing with the current full support plus taking her to court countless times). AM