What is the name of your state? Texas
Hi all...
Kind of a three part, related question. Somewhat urgent.
We are the NCP's, and we live in California. The CP and the now graduated 18 1/2 yo child lives in Texas.
What is the process to stop child support as quickly as possible? The OAG is of no help whatsoever in this (of course). We have asked our daughter to send a copy of her diploma, but we're not sure from that point what to do. I have searched the web, and can't seem to find the right word combinations to get the proper answer.
Second question, we do have an arrearage - It's a good sized one. Background: We're aware of the amount, and believe that some portion of it was assigned to the state as the ex went on TANF for a short time, until it dawned on her she wasn't going to get BOTH support AND TANF. We admit freely that we haven't paid as well as we should, but for the most part it was a desperation measure. The child was being shuttled to various relatives homes while the ex shacked up with various boyfriends for two years. We decided to send the support directly to the child during this situation, not through the state, as it was the only way she would get any of it. We know none of this will be credited to us. And we know we could have pushed for a change of custody, but the child had a nervous breakdown (not exaggerating) at the thought of being taken from her school, friends, older sisters, and entire extended family. She wasn't being mistreated, or neglected, she just didn't have her mom living with her, and her mom was spending her child support on her boyfriends, so in the interest of her peace of mind, we decided to leave her in Texas, at her request.
The question relating to the above is... Will Texas continue to collect the arrearage itself? Or will it now be assigned to a collection agency because the child is emancipated?
In order to get the most money possible directly to the child, we have considered asking the ex to go in and sign a waiver of arrearage with the promise of a lump sum payment, or an offer to voluntarily continue support until the child is 21 so long as she signs a waiver for the arrearage that applies to her. She's just greedy enough to do it, without thinking it through first. Only a small portion of the arrears belong to the state because of the TANF, we're happy to pay this off. The remainder is what we'd ask the ex to waive. This way ALL money could go directly to the child, and not to the ex's and her boyfriends drug habits. Is this practical/possible based on the question asked in the last paragraph? For example, if the state reassigns to collections on emancipation, then would she no longer be able to sign a waiver? Are we in a time crunch here?
Additional note... If we were to pay the arrearage in a lump sum in full, the ex has already stated her intention to keep it for herself, and feels no need to share any of it with the child. Her quote: "The state won't make me give any of it to her, so why should I? You guys will pay whatever bill she has, so why should she get MY money?"
Hope this is relatively understandable. If clarification is needed, please reply, and I'll fill in any holes.
Thanks in advance...
Kim
Hi all...
Kind of a three part, related question. Somewhat urgent.
We are the NCP's, and we live in California. The CP and the now graduated 18 1/2 yo child lives in Texas.
What is the process to stop child support as quickly as possible? The OAG is of no help whatsoever in this (of course). We have asked our daughter to send a copy of her diploma, but we're not sure from that point what to do. I have searched the web, and can't seem to find the right word combinations to get the proper answer.
Second question, we do have an arrearage - It's a good sized one. Background: We're aware of the amount, and believe that some portion of it was assigned to the state as the ex went on TANF for a short time, until it dawned on her she wasn't going to get BOTH support AND TANF. We admit freely that we haven't paid as well as we should, but for the most part it was a desperation measure. The child was being shuttled to various relatives homes while the ex shacked up with various boyfriends for two years. We decided to send the support directly to the child during this situation, not through the state, as it was the only way she would get any of it. We know none of this will be credited to us. And we know we could have pushed for a change of custody, but the child had a nervous breakdown (not exaggerating) at the thought of being taken from her school, friends, older sisters, and entire extended family. She wasn't being mistreated, or neglected, she just didn't have her mom living with her, and her mom was spending her child support on her boyfriends, so in the interest of her peace of mind, we decided to leave her in Texas, at her request.
The question relating to the above is... Will Texas continue to collect the arrearage itself? Or will it now be assigned to a collection agency because the child is emancipated?
In order to get the most money possible directly to the child, we have considered asking the ex to go in and sign a waiver of arrearage with the promise of a lump sum payment, or an offer to voluntarily continue support until the child is 21 so long as she signs a waiver for the arrearage that applies to her. She's just greedy enough to do it, without thinking it through first. Only a small portion of the arrears belong to the state because of the TANF, we're happy to pay this off. The remainder is what we'd ask the ex to waive. This way ALL money could go directly to the child, and not to the ex's and her boyfriends drug habits. Is this practical/possible based on the question asked in the last paragraph? For example, if the state reassigns to collections on emancipation, then would she no longer be able to sign a waiver? Are we in a time crunch here?
Additional note... If we were to pay the arrearage in a lump sum in full, the ex has already stated her intention to keep it for herself, and feels no need to share any of it with the child. Her quote: "The state won't make me give any of it to her, so why should I? You guys will pay whatever bill she has, so why should she get MY money?"
Hope this is relatively understandable. If clarification is needed, please reply, and I'll fill in any holes.
Thanks in advance...
Kim
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