Dukefandad
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Virginia
I have been divorced for almost 2 years and have two kids, ages 17 and 14. At the time, I made some very difficult decisions and sacrifices, that I knew would be totally unfair to me, solely for the purpose of trying not to hinder my children_s relationship with their mother. Given the things that my ex did, and going against the advice of everyone I know, they may not have been the right decisions. My question is whether it is too late to make any changes, so first I will give some basic facts of the situation, beginning with the actions of my ex in sequential order:
1) Just prior to asking for the separation, my ex met & had an affair with a 28 yr. old guy at the beach, whom she would have move in with her approx. just over a month after the separation. He continued to live with her approx. 1 yr. 2) During the time she was still with him, I met and dated someone for the first time, towards the end of the year she was with him. When she found out I was seeing someone, she flipped, came to a friend_s house where I was with my date & my children, she pushed her way through the front door, screaming & ranting, threatening my date, threatening to tear her car up & our house, etc., & I finally had no choice to call the police. This incident is on record. 3) During Christmas, 2004, she totaled her car, flipping it 4 times, and was charged with DUI with a high blood alcohol level & subsequently sentenced to weekend jail, car lock breathalyzer & probation for 1 yr.
There is no written agreement on custody or child support, of which I am currently paying $650/mo. We basically split custody, but she tips being the _custodial_ parent since the kids stay with her overnight during the week; I have them every other weekend and two nights during the school week, but not over night on weekday/schooldays. We have basically adhered to this agreement without a written order. Finally, my question_given the past events and her actions, record, etc., do I have any chance of having custody & child support changed in my favor?
I have been divorced for almost 2 years and have two kids, ages 17 and 14. At the time, I made some very difficult decisions and sacrifices, that I knew would be totally unfair to me, solely for the purpose of trying not to hinder my children_s relationship with their mother. Given the things that my ex did, and going against the advice of everyone I know, they may not have been the right decisions. My question is whether it is too late to make any changes, so first I will give some basic facts of the situation, beginning with the actions of my ex in sequential order:
1) Just prior to asking for the separation, my ex met & had an affair with a 28 yr. old guy at the beach, whom she would have move in with her approx. just over a month after the separation. He continued to live with her approx. 1 yr. 2) During the time she was still with him, I met and dated someone for the first time, towards the end of the year she was with him. When she found out I was seeing someone, she flipped, came to a friend_s house where I was with my date & my children, she pushed her way through the front door, screaming & ranting, threatening my date, threatening to tear her car up & our house, etc., & I finally had no choice to call the police. This incident is on record. 3) During Christmas, 2004, she totaled her car, flipping it 4 times, and was charged with DUI with a high blood alcohol level & subsequently sentenced to weekend jail, car lock breathalyzer & probation for 1 yr.
There is no written agreement on custody or child support, of which I am currently paying $650/mo. We basically split custody, but she tips being the _custodial_ parent since the kids stay with her overnight during the week; I have them every other weekend and two nights during the school week, but not over night on weekday/schooldays. We have basically adhered to this agreement without a written order. Finally, my question_given the past events and her actions, record, etc., do I have any chance of having custody & child support changed in my favor?
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