Unfit Mother?

[xxBri123xx]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?FL

my (now 19 yr old) sister has given birth to a baby boy. He is now 10 months old. She lives with my mom, and works at walmart. She won't get daycare for her son because she refuses to trust other people with her child, and she won't go to a family care place to help her get on her feet and her and her son into an aprtment. Her boyfriend refuses to take any part in this childs life, and lives 2 hours away, doesn't pay child support (in which she doesn't want him to either). My mom is moving out of her house and she needs my sister to be out tomorrow. Recently she has been dropping her son off for very, very long periods of time saying her boss has been putting all of these hours on her and she needs them (mainly because she hasn't been going to work, using poor excuses such as she is tired). Well lately she has been dropping him off and leaving him here for way too long while she is at "work". IE: she dropped him off Thursday 9am- and my mom picked him up at 9pm, Friday she went to my school pulled me out of school and had me watch him from 10 am to 2pm the next day. All this time she says she is at work, on her days off she drops her son off over at my house, he is always filthy, not down right gross visibly but sometimes not having a bath for 3 days...sometimes he just smells because the clothes she drops him off in are the ones she picked him up in a few days before, dirt on his legs and in his finger nails. Ok now onto my real question...well since she was working ALL of the hours (15-18 hrs a day at WM) we went down there today after time after time of calling her work and her not coming to the phone, she wasn't even there and it turns out she was at some guys house and has been lying to my mom and me so she can go sleep with him. She does not provide anything for her son, and honestly I am very worried. IS there any possible way my mom can get custody of him because there is no way he will have a life with her, with all of this help in her life she lies to everyone to drop of her son so she can go screw around, not go to work and not look for a place to stay which is what she is supposed to be doing in the firs place.

 

[ENASNI]

ahem

i will get crap for this.. but I don't care today.

nice fricking sister..

She seems like she is trying .. try to help HER.

 

[stealth2]

Y'all sound dysfunctional to me. Sorry.

 

[xxBri123xx]

try to help her......?, I watch her son almost everyday, and I even watch him when she just doesnt feel like it. She never spends time with him, she would rather lie about working, to have somewhere for him to stay so she can go have sex with some guy with a g/f. I love watching her son, only because he gets what he needs when he is with me. When we caught her at Brads house instead of work, we let her know that her son was with us, and she just walked away. And I should help her? I have been trying to find her apartments, and trying to push her to go to Counsel Square to get any financial help needed. And after all of this, she abandons her son to go screw around, uses my moms van to party around. She is NOT a fit mother, and I have gone far to help her but she only pushes everyone away. That baby has done nothing to deserve any of this and he needs his MOTHER to be around, she hasn't seen her son in almost 2-3 days because getting laid is more important. On top of everything else, its a possibility she could be using drugs with this guy and her getting pregnant again could also happen because she doesn't think. I am 16, and I spend more time with her son then she does...and thats sad. I want to see him grow up happy, and be surrounded by people that loves him, not by a mother like this.

 

[chatkat]

Bri, if your mother wants custody of her grandson, she needs to talk to a lawyer and find out how to go about getting him.

Although I can understand you are frustrated, you seem to be complaining that you and your mother are always taking care of your sisters son, and at the same time saying you want your mom to have custody. That would mean that you and your mother would still be taking care of your sisters son.

How will your mother getting custody change the way things are now?

 

[IrishLady47]

my (now 19 yr old) sister has given birth to a baby boy. He is now 10 months old. She lives with my mom, and works at walmart. She won't get daycare for her son because she refuses to trust other people with her child, and she won't go to a family care place to help her get on her feet and her and her son into an aprtment.

She doesn't want daycare or to be in her own apartment w/her son because then she would have to be truly responsible for him--she is too immature to be a mother.

Her boyfriend refuses to take any part in this childs life, and lives 2 hours away, doesn't pay child support (in which she doesn't want him to either).

He is too immature to be a father.

The best chance this baby has towards a decent life is to be adopted by a mature couple who are ready & able to raise a child. Your mom needs to put her foot down & quit enabling your sister's irresponsibility. If she doesn't shape up, report the child neglect to CPS if you want her proven unfit. Even if your mom can get custody, she needs to think this out very carefully. What if your sister has another baby & does the same thing? Since she knows mom will rescue her, it could happen again.

 

[xxBri123xx]

Thank you for responding, Im not complaining on watching him, its the fact that I would like him to see more of his mother then of me, as I type he is here now, i acutally love him being here because he is with people who love him, yesterday My sister instead of finding a place to live, she slept all day and just left the baby crawling on the floor alone. All I want is for him to have someone who is responsible and that can take care of me. By my mom getting custody he would be placed in daycare and I would pick him up when I get out of school. He wouldn't be thrown around.