What is the name of your state? We live in TN. About 6 mos ago we got served with a paternity suit for the child of my husband's ex-fiaince. Their relationship was ending when we met, and she at first claimed it was his child, then (we now think out of spite because he did not take her back as a result of the pregnancy) she told him it was not his child. He told her from the beginning he wanted a DNA test to prove it was his as she had also been "out" with someone else, but she said she would NOT take one. So, when she said it was not his, he believed her and thought she had just been trying to pin it on him. The last time she told him that was in about her 7th month. We went on and were married about 6 months later...never heard another word until June 06. He had the DNA test and he is ours. We immediately started paying his mother child support and for a lot of other things. The child has always been told his father walked away. The mother has been very greedy, even though the child wants to spend time with us and we have developed a good relationship, she tries to limit his time for more $.
But, he still is ambivalent toward his father and has been told so many lies. We have
a stable home and his mother is single with another child from another relationship. We have 2 other children who love him and he loves them. BUT...the mother is suing us for retro-child support for all those years! It is tricky, becuase she did initially tell him it was his, but then that it was not. His name is not on Birth Certificate, nor did she call when he was born, nothing.
I want to countersue(in a civil action) for SOMETHING. Possibly the permanent damage to their relationship?
Possibly slander or SOMETHING? I just want their to be some sort of accountability even if it goes no where,
she would at least be faced with all her lies and have to explain them.
It just makes me so mad that you can withhold child support and be put in JAIL, but if you withhold someone's child...no one can do anything to you. I think the facts will weigh out on the retroactive CS, but I want to fight to prove that we are telling the truth.
Does anyone know if there's any type action you can take against someone for willfully depriving you of a lifetime with your own child? It's almost like kidnapping if you think about it. (Too bad, that is criminal and not civil)
Yes I am angry. My husband is a good man. Any ideas?
But, he still is ambivalent toward his father and has been told so many lies. We have
a stable home and his mother is single with another child from another relationship. We have 2 other children who love him and he loves them. BUT...the mother is suing us for retro-child support for all those years! It is tricky, becuase she did initially tell him it was his, but then that it was not. His name is not on Birth Certificate, nor did she call when he was born, nothing.
I want to countersue(in a civil action) for SOMETHING. Possibly the permanent damage to their relationship?
Possibly slander or SOMETHING? I just want their to be some sort of accountability even if it goes no where,
she would at least be faced with all her lies and have to explain them.
It just makes me so mad that you can withhold child support and be put in JAIL, but if you withhold someone's child...no one can do anything to you. I think the facts will weigh out on the retroactive CS, but I want to fight to prove that we are telling the truth.
Does anyone know if there's any type action you can take against someone for willfully depriving you of a lifetime with your own child? It's almost like kidnapping if you think about it. (Too bad, that is criminal and not civil)
Yes I am angry. My husband is a good man. Any ideas?
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