StevensMommy
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North Carolina is where this is happening.
My husband's first wife (even though her kids with him are grown) keeps trying to take out back child support orders to the tune of $800 a month. This would only be a years worth of payments, but he cannot afford that. The girls will be 22 in April. He and I have a disabled son together. The problem is, while legal separation with child support in place is a thing in NC, VA (where we used to live) and in UT (where we live now, they know my situation and have no issues with it since the divorce is pending)....this woman never reported the money she got from him outside of child support payments. And she got them, 85% of the time. Yet would go to his bank at midnight when he got paid, and empty his account often. My husband thinks that if he so much as calls the child support office, that they're going to arrest him. I've finally gotten him to see that this isn't the case.
My husband isn't the type to skip out on child support, he's just had periods of time where he wasn't working (his own fault, not defending him). I actually took him out of Virginia's system (we had a long domestic violence issue, it's resolved, we co-parent because I'm ill and our son needs both parents in the house...divorce still going through, agreed on both sides). He's never had a problem getting what his children need. The thing is, this woman wants her income free to just live large, and I actually took the money I got to pay for our son's needs. My husband has seen that. Everything in this house is geared to my son's comfort. Everything. He eats before me, he gets new shoes and clothes before me. What do I need new stuff for, when I'm home bound? I flew my husband out here, because my health problems are increasing. I may have cancer. If I do, it's well progressed. I need to prepare him for what's coming, and him struggling to afford to live because this chick is greedy...
My husband didn't divorce this woman until 2011. She refused to pay for the divorce, and he couldn't afford to because he was too busy paying for her expenses. Our marital issues came from his unresolved anger over this, and much more. She never reported that income that she was taking, and collected medicaid, SNAP, was on section 8 (and still is). He is a vet, and at one point she had a military power of attorney (deployment orders) and took out everything in his name, so when she didn't want to pay for anything, her credit wasn't affected. She's scum.
She knows my son's autistic, and that we have to pay out of pocket for his insurance and everything else. I'm pulling the divorce decree and getting my husband to go down to the bank and see if they have any sort of archive we can use if we do have a case. At the very most, that twat should be getting $200 a month (or less) because even though I took my husband out of Virginia's system, he still has arrears from a period of unemployment (18 months, economy...) when I had no financial support at all. I'm disabled, and during that time I was still waiting for my hearing. Even Virginia isn't trying to take more than $100 a month from him. His arrears will come to me in future, through income tax garnishment. Neither of us is worried about that stuff. We're just tired of this woman's machinations.
Utah is very good at catching up with non-custodial parents, and we have a move to make next year. All of us. My husband and I have decided that for as long as our son needs, we will house share. I'm usually too sick or weak to do it all on my own, and kiddo needs his dad.
If we can prove she's been accessing income she didn't report, not to mention was still married to this man, do we have a case? I'm sick of her greed. Next she'll be saying that the one minor child she has left is my husband's just because she doesn't want to work. I want her working for ten cents an hour, sewing panties.
My husband's first wife (even though her kids with him are grown) keeps trying to take out back child support orders to the tune of $800 a month. This would only be a years worth of payments, but he cannot afford that. The girls will be 22 in April. He and I have a disabled son together. The problem is, while legal separation with child support in place is a thing in NC, VA (where we used to live) and in UT (where we live now, they know my situation and have no issues with it since the divorce is pending)....this woman never reported the money she got from him outside of child support payments. And she got them, 85% of the time. Yet would go to his bank at midnight when he got paid, and empty his account often. My husband thinks that if he so much as calls the child support office, that they're going to arrest him. I've finally gotten him to see that this isn't the case.
My husband isn't the type to skip out on child support, he's just had periods of time where he wasn't working (his own fault, not defending him). I actually took him out of Virginia's system (we had a long domestic violence issue, it's resolved, we co-parent because I'm ill and our son needs both parents in the house...divorce still going through, agreed on both sides). He's never had a problem getting what his children need. The thing is, this woman wants her income free to just live large, and I actually took the money I got to pay for our son's needs. My husband has seen that. Everything in this house is geared to my son's comfort. Everything. He eats before me, he gets new shoes and clothes before me. What do I need new stuff for, when I'm home bound? I flew my husband out here, because my health problems are increasing. I may have cancer. If I do, it's well progressed. I need to prepare him for what's coming, and him struggling to afford to live because this chick is greedy...
My husband didn't divorce this woman until 2011. She refused to pay for the divorce, and he couldn't afford to because he was too busy paying for her expenses. Our marital issues came from his unresolved anger over this, and much more. She never reported that income that she was taking, and collected medicaid, SNAP, was on section 8 (and still is). He is a vet, and at one point she had a military power of attorney (deployment orders) and took out everything in his name, so when she didn't want to pay for anything, her credit wasn't affected. She's scum.
She knows my son's autistic, and that we have to pay out of pocket for his insurance and everything else. I'm pulling the divorce decree and getting my husband to go down to the bank and see if they have any sort of archive we can use if we do have a case. At the very most, that twat should be getting $200 a month (or less) because even though I took my husband out of Virginia's system, he still has arrears from a period of unemployment (18 months, economy...) when I had no financial support at all. I'm disabled, and during that time I was still waiting for my hearing. Even Virginia isn't trying to take more than $100 a month from him. His arrears will come to me in future, through income tax garnishment. Neither of us is worried about that stuff. We're just tired of this woman's machinations.
Utah is very good at catching up with non-custodial parents, and we have a move to make next year. All of us. My husband and I have decided that for as long as our son needs, we will house share. I'm usually too sick or weak to do it all on my own, and kiddo needs his dad.
If we can prove she's been accessing income she didn't report, not to mention was still married to this man, do we have a case? I'm sick of her greed. Next she'll be saying that the one minor child she has left is my husband's just because she doesn't want to work. I want her working for ten cents an hour, sewing panties.
