needtoknownow
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What is the name of your state? WA
Here goes. I have a 6yr old daughter and her father has been out of our lives ever since she was 3 months old. We were never married, his name is not on the birth certificate, and as far as I'm aware he's now living in CA. Here's the thing, when we met he had two other children. Both mother's had sued for child support and to my knowledge he still has yet to pay. He has a very long history of drug abuse with a criminal record to match. The last time we spoke I told him I wanted full custody of our daughter and for him to give up his rights to her. Essentially, he'd fight me in court. I spoke with a lawyer then and was told that I basically wouldn't have to worry about anything due to his criminal and drug record along with the fact that paternity would have to be established. Unfortunately, I didn't pursue it any further and I think it's gonna bite me in the ass. It's been five and half years since I've seen him and that's long enough for him to get his act together and have good reasoning to fight me in court. I'm now currently married and have another child with my husband. My 6 yr old daughter recognizes my husband as her father and doesn't know about her biological father. He and I have been together since she was 1 1/2 yrs of age. My husband is the one that's actually wantng me to sue my ex for support. I'd rather not and the reason behind that is because I fear for my daughter's safety. I don't want to allow for visitation rights and one day my daughter never comes back home and can't be found anywhere. My husband wants to adopt my 6 yr old and I want him too as well. What should I do? I'm sure if I sued for support and back pay it would be a large sum, but ultimately my daughter's safety is worth more. Would I be able to sue for support without allowing visitation with proper cause? And If so, if my husband adopts my 6yr old does that release my ex from court ordered support?What is the name of your state?
Here goes. I have a 6yr old daughter and her father has been out of our lives ever since she was 3 months old. We were never married, his name is not on the birth certificate, and as far as I'm aware he's now living in CA. Here's the thing, when we met he had two other children. Both mother's had sued for child support and to my knowledge he still has yet to pay. He has a very long history of drug abuse with a criminal record to match. The last time we spoke I told him I wanted full custody of our daughter and for him to give up his rights to her. Essentially, he'd fight me in court. I spoke with a lawyer then and was told that I basically wouldn't have to worry about anything due to his criminal and drug record along with the fact that paternity would have to be established. Unfortunately, I didn't pursue it any further and I think it's gonna bite me in the ass. It's been five and half years since I've seen him and that's long enough for him to get his act together and have good reasoning to fight me in court. I'm now currently married and have another child with my husband. My 6 yr old daughter recognizes my husband as her father and doesn't know about her biological father. He and I have been together since she was 1 1/2 yrs of age. My husband is the one that's actually wantng me to sue my ex for support. I'd rather not and the reason behind that is because I fear for my daughter's safety. I don't want to allow for visitation rights and one day my daughter never comes back home and can't be found anywhere. My husband wants to adopt my 6 yr old and I want him too as well. What should I do? I'm sure if I sued for support and back pay it would be a large sum, but ultimately my daughter's safety is worth more. Would I be able to sue for support without allowing visitation with proper cause? And If so, if my husband adopts my 6yr old does that release my ex from court ordered support?What is the name of your state?