Gee..... Why did you have more children if you couldn't do so and support your others? Either you take shift work when your husband's home to watch these kids, or you find a way to work from home, or you get a job and put these kids in daycare, or whatever. But choosing to have more kids and stay home with them does NOT get you out of paying child support.sleeplessnights said:
Two Words: DAY CARE.....(o.k. one word)sleeplessnights said:
when I joined this forum, I thought I'll get some kind of friendly support. Don't be judgemental here, sometimes you don't know what had happen in their past. How it all started why they became a "deadbeat Dad or Mom". Fifteen years ago, my X put me in hell. I was abused by him, so I left him but I did not plan it that day, that very day I had to leave his parents house with nothing , I mean no clothes , no money and no children but just a car which he stoled a week a later. I did not have family to run nor friends to support me. I was alone to fight him back. So in court he hired the best lawyer and I have govt. assistance. I'm supposed to have visitation, but he has all kinds of conditions that only benefits him. I was stalked, harrassed, vandalized anything I own like my second car. But everytime I complain to court or call a police, they could not catch him is because he was good at it. No body believes me then. I was nothing. He brainwashed my kids, he manipulated the situation in court, and even brainwashed my own lawyer. He threaten me to get away from my kids or he wont stop ruining my life. I had to do, what I had to do to leave them alone. Until my new husband rescued me from my nightmares. There is no days I don't look back and wish I had back bone to fought back.none of this excuses the fact those children you left behind are YOUR children also and need to be supported partly by you.sleeplessnights said:
It's easy for you to throw the question back to me, because you were not the one married to my X. He took my kids away from me mentally & physically, by using his power of threats. It's not because he actually cared for those kids but all he cared for was himself. He figured I'm not going back to him so he used our kids s a trap but the thing I did not take the bait. I did'nt want to be married to him anymore. And he could'nt accept the fact we are over as husband & wife. So revenge started in his part. I was scared for my life. Have you ever encountered a manipulator? Hope you experience once so you know where I'm coming from. I know I have obligation to pay CS but he has obligation to let me see our kids.