CJane
Senior Member
What is the name of your state? MO
The exBF was sent child support paperwork last week, and even though he's been insisting for months that he 'wants to make voluntary payments', he's apparently upset with me and CSE and is being a jerk.
He's now claiming that he wants a DNA test. He called CSE and told them that he wanted one and they told him that since he signed the AOP, one would not be ordered for this case. He threatened to get an attorney, and the woman essentially told him to go right ahead and drag everything out, but all that would happen is that he'd rack up more in arrearages prior to being told by the court that they won't order a DNA test.
So, he called me and asked if I'd voluntarily submit our son to a test. I really don't care, because there's no doubt that the kid is his. What bothers me is that he claims he's NOT dusputing paternity, has no doubt the child is his, etc but wants the test 'for future use'. What possible 'future use' could there be for a DNA test (especially one that's not court ordered).
Basically, he's telling me that I will submit our son for testing, or he will drag the child support thing out indefinitely just because he's angry with me.
Legally, he has no standing to request the test - should I go ahead and agree just to get him off my back?
In the meantime, he's also saying that he called the mother of his other child and informed her that he's now making considerably more than he was when the child support for that child was issued, and she has already increased support for that child (this supposedly took place in one day). Is that even possible? I thought a modification took awhile? I also thought that a modification could not take place in MO while a parent was in arrears (he's about $500 behind on child support to his daughter).
Is it possible for a modification to take place while an order (mine) is pending?
I'm not counting on child support from this guy, given his current behavior (refusal to see the child, harrassing phone calls, extreme anger issues, threats to take the child and disappear, threats to commit suicide, etc), but I'm confused about the process and tired of him just expecting me to believe everything he tells me.
Help?
The exBF was sent child support paperwork last week, and even though he's been insisting for months that he 'wants to make voluntary payments', he's apparently upset with me and CSE and is being a jerk.
He's now claiming that he wants a DNA test. He called CSE and told them that he wanted one and they told him that since he signed the AOP, one would not be ordered for this case. He threatened to get an attorney, and the woman essentially told him to go right ahead and drag everything out, but all that would happen is that he'd rack up more in arrearages prior to being told by the court that they won't order a DNA test.
So, he called me and asked if I'd voluntarily submit our son to a test. I really don't care, because there's no doubt that the kid is his. What bothers me is that he claims he's NOT dusputing paternity, has no doubt the child is his, etc but wants the test 'for future use'. What possible 'future use' could there be for a DNA test (especially one that's not court ordered).
Basically, he's telling me that I will submit our son for testing, or he will drag the child support thing out indefinitely just because he's angry with me.
Legally, he has no standing to request the test - should I go ahead and agree just to get him off my back?
In the meantime, he's also saying that he called the mother of his other child and informed her that he's now making considerably more than he was when the child support for that child was issued, and she has already increased support for that child (this supposedly took place in one day). Is that even possible? I thought a modification took awhile? I also thought that a modification could not take place in MO while a parent was in arrears (he's about $500 behind on child support to his daughter).
Is it possible for a modification to take place while an order (mine) is pending?
I'm not counting on child support from this guy, given his current behavior (refusal to see the child, harrassing phone calls, extreme anger issues, threats to take the child and disappear, threats to commit suicide, etc), but I'm confused about the process and tired of him just expecting me to believe everything he tells me.
Help?