too sad in az
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What is the name of your state? Arizona
My son's father, who is married is taking me to court to get visitation. My son is 1yr and his father has only seen him 29 times during 2004. I have allowed his father to visit him at any time but because I will not let him spend the night my son's father has taken the attitude all or nothing. I have told my son's father that he can take him at anytime except to his home because his wife his violent. His wife has put holes in the walls, which I saw myself, has written nasty letters to my family, has called my previous employer to get information on me, she and my son's father had a physical fight in front of their 5 year old daughter who then called 911, they have shouting matches and she expressed she did not know if she could love my son. I do not feel this is a healthy environment or my son would be safe. His attorney wrote a letter stating that I am interferring in the relationship with my son & his father. His attorney also sent my attorney a letter stating that he is willing to pay child support of $456 a month. My son's father makes $6,600 a month and has only given $250 a month, when he feels like it skipping other months saying he doesn't have it to give. My questions are; Will my son's father be made to pay back child support / retroactive child support? How do I protect my son without it being considered interference in a father son relationship? And isn't my son far too young to spend overnights away from me, his mother, with a man he hardly even knows? I have an attorney but I feel as if he does not care enough. I didn't feel the need to include every detail to my situation because I was looking for answers or help regarding visitation & child support. But here goes... I didn't know he was married. He & his wife were separated at the time, she was in NY for over a year. I am not ignorant and capable of adding. So let me clear something up. 29 times he saw his son, when he decided to drop by at 10:00pm at night on a week night. I had the heart to let him in to take a peak at him while he was sleeping. He has only seen his son 12 times while he was awake and 6 times before 8:00pm. I have encouraged him to visit on Saturdays or after church on Sundays. I'm not keeping him from his son. However I guess weeknights suite him better when he's out cheating on his wife. I understand your stance but would appreciate some advice based on circumstance not criticisim. Thank you.
My son's father, who is married is taking me to court to get visitation. My son is 1yr and his father has only seen him 29 times during 2004. I have allowed his father to visit him at any time but because I will not let him spend the night my son's father has taken the attitude all or nothing. I have told my son's father that he can take him at anytime except to his home because his wife his violent. His wife has put holes in the walls, which I saw myself, has written nasty letters to my family, has called my previous employer to get information on me, she and my son's father had a physical fight in front of their 5 year old daughter who then called 911, they have shouting matches and she expressed she did not know if she could love my son. I do not feel this is a healthy environment or my son would be safe. His attorney wrote a letter stating that I am interferring in the relationship with my son & his father. His attorney also sent my attorney a letter stating that he is willing to pay child support of $456 a month. My son's father makes $6,600 a month and has only given $250 a month, when he feels like it skipping other months saying he doesn't have it to give. My questions are; Will my son's father be made to pay back child support / retroactive child support? How do I protect my son without it being considered interference in a father son relationship? And isn't my son far too young to spend overnights away from me, his mother, with a man he hardly even knows? I have an attorney but I feel as if he does not care enough. I didn't feel the need to include every detail to my situation because I was looking for answers or help regarding visitation & child support. But here goes... I didn't know he was married. He & his wife were separated at the time, she was in NY for over a year. I am not ignorant and capable of adding. So let me clear something up. 29 times he saw his son, when he decided to drop by at 10:00pm at night on a week night. I had the heart to let him in to take a peak at him while he was sleeping. He has only seen his son 12 times while he was awake and 6 times before 8:00pm. I have encouraged him to visit on Saturdays or after church on Sundays. I'm not keeping him from his son. However I guess weeknights suite him better when he's out cheating on his wife. I understand your stance but would appreciate some advice based on circumstance not criticisim. Thank you.
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