So... just wanted to let you know that at first, I was planning to help raise this kid. But then a series of events occurred in which all of my friends and family, my therapist, my mentors have all unanimously told me that getting the mother out of my life permanently is their strongest recommendation. They all say it would be a catastrophe for me to be involved with her going forward and the unanimous wisdom is that I should have nothing to do with this child, even if it is mine. Never before in my life have so many people I trust been so forthcoming in their opinions on what I should do with my own life. Of course, I will pay the support dutifully, and if the child emancipates itself and wants to come live with me then it is welcome to. Just saying for you all... Sometimes the relationship between the parents is such that having them both in the child's life would be wore than just having one. She's already shown how she will use the child against me and for power. It's not my weakness that is the problem. It's that she is a predator, a scam artist, she does this kind of thing (manipulate and destroy men) for a living.