Irish Blues
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Illinois
I have a 16-year old child who I pay child support for. I also have a wife and 4 children (ages 7, 4, and twins 18 months), while she has three other children (~13 from a 2nd father, ~10 and 6 from a 3rd father/1st husband) all of which she receives child support for, and is married but has no children with her current husband. We currently earn about $20,000 a year and get state assistance, but I have an offer to take a job in Massachusetts for just over $50,000 a year. (I do not start for 3 more weeks.) I have no idea what her income is (or her husband's income), but it wouldn't matter if I knew - the court won't look at it. Naturally, when she found out I had accepted another job offer she raced off to the lawyer for more child support.
Under IL guidelines, she's entitled to 20% of my net income (except in certain instances...but we'll ignore those here). If she seeks that amount (and there's every indication she will), there is no way I'll be able to afford the new child support amount PLUS pay for housing in Massachusetts plus "normal" expenses like utilities, transportation to/from work, and "normal" personal expenses like food, clothing, diapers, etc. This leaves me with 2 options: move everyone to MA and go broke trying to pay her child support, or stay here and stay on the welfare list instead of doing what I thought was the "right" thing and get off once I had a chance to make things better for my family.
Yes, I know I didn't have to have more kids (I hear those of you saying that), but when she had the 2nd child and (later) got divorced with 2 more, she was rewarded with more welfare benefits, additional child support, and she still didn't have to find a job (despite whatever federal laws are out there)...and that's OK apparently. When she goes back to get more support from each father, her income, financial situation, and the fact that all 4 of her kids are getting child support get ignored - "we have to look at the best interests of YOUR child" - but the fact that my expenses are going *way* up to take this job get ignored, as well as my 4 children. The firstborn gets the cake, everyone else gets the crumbs...except that she can do that with each of her kids.
And yes...Illinois law states that the support amount can be adjusted to take into account "the financial needs and resources of the custodial parent", but from past experience that won't happen. My role will be to sit down, shut up, and pray that the court doesn't order more than 20% in the judgment because "you need to take care of the child you have an obligation to", as if I don't have an obligation to my other 4.
Understand - this is NOT an attempt to get out of paying support. I know there are deadbeats who don't pay, and they should be paying out the nose...but I'm not the only one who's trying to do the right thing, and I'm tird of being treated like less than dirt when I'm taken to court. I just want something that's fair for everyone involved...and when her expenses aren't going up and her and her husband can go out to the bar 3-5 times a week and that's OK but I have to pay my "fair share" and hope I can still pay bills for my kids, I just think something is wrong.
Are there any suggestions, or is the system really slanted toward us NCP's who are trying to do the right thing?
I have a 16-year old child who I pay child support for. I also have a wife and 4 children (ages 7, 4, and twins 18 months), while she has three other children (~13 from a 2nd father, ~10 and 6 from a 3rd father/1st husband) all of which she receives child support for, and is married but has no children with her current husband. We currently earn about $20,000 a year and get state assistance, but I have an offer to take a job in Massachusetts for just over $50,000 a year. (I do not start for 3 more weeks.) I have no idea what her income is (or her husband's income), but it wouldn't matter if I knew - the court won't look at it. Naturally, when she found out I had accepted another job offer she raced off to the lawyer for more child support.
Under IL guidelines, she's entitled to 20% of my net income (except in certain instances...but we'll ignore those here). If she seeks that amount (and there's every indication she will), there is no way I'll be able to afford the new child support amount PLUS pay for housing in Massachusetts plus "normal" expenses like utilities, transportation to/from work, and "normal" personal expenses like food, clothing, diapers, etc. This leaves me with 2 options: move everyone to MA and go broke trying to pay her child support, or stay here and stay on the welfare list instead of doing what I thought was the "right" thing and get off once I had a chance to make things better for my family.
Yes, I know I didn't have to have more kids (I hear those of you saying that), but when she had the 2nd child and (later) got divorced with 2 more, she was rewarded with more welfare benefits, additional child support, and she still didn't have to find a job (despite whatever federal laws are out there)...and that's OK apparently. When she goes back to get more support from each father, her income, financial situation, and the fact that all 4 of her kids are getting child support get ignored - "we have to look at the best interests of YOUR child" - but the fact that my expenses are going *way* up to take this job get ignored, as well as my 4 children. The firstborn gets the cake, everyone else gets the crumbs...except that she can do that with each of her kids.
And yes...Illinois law states that the support amount can be adjusted to take into account "the financial needs and resources of the custodial parent", but from past experience that won't happen. My role will be to sit down, shut up, and pray that the court doesn't order more than 20% in the judgment because "you need to take care of the child you have an obligation to", as if I don't have an obligation to my other 4.
Understand - this is NOT an attempt to get out of paying support. I know there are deadbeats who don't pay, and they should be paying out the nose...but I'm not the only one who's trying to do the right thing, and I'm tird of being treated like less than dirt when I'm taken to court. I just want something that's fair for everyone involved...and when her expenses aren't going up and her and her husband can go out to the bar 3-5 times a week and that's OK but I have to pay my "fair share" and hope I can still pay bills for my kids, I just think something is wrong.
Are there any suggestions, or is the system really slanted toward us NCP's who are trying to do the right thing?