bmisericorde
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
Long story short: Was in a relationship for 10 years. We have a mortgage together and had a joint bank account. When we split up, she agreed (verbally) to live in the house and pay the mortgage, while I moved out of state. After about two months of living there, she stopped paying the mortgage, sending it in default. Since the bank was sending mail to both of us at the house, she received all the mail about the past due payments.
She had intended to have the house foreclosed upon without my knowledge. I found out by luck because a friend mentioned he heard she was moving out. By the time I found out about it, it was 3 and a half months overdue. I paid a payment out of pocket, then negotiated with the mortgage company to catch up on the past due amounts while I looked for renters to put in the house. By the time she vacated the house, she had been living there for over 4 months without paying a dime. She also left it a complete mess, it took four people 4 hours to clean it.
So, as I'm paying the past due amounts, which was ~$350 x 4 payments + late fees, about $1500, I notice she is still using our joint account.
I waited until she deposited her tax return in it ($1300), took $800 from that and gave it to the mortgage company, catching up with all the payments. This was about 2 months ago. She texted me last night saying if I didn't return the $800 or give her half the money from the renters I'd be hearing from her lawyer.
First, I don't think she has a lawyer, and if she does, I don't think the lawyer knows the whole story. For example, she brought in a roommate "to help pay the mortgage" (which didn't get paid).
Second, it was a joint account over 6 years old that we had both used. Just because the last amount that landed in the account was her tax return, I don't see it as "hers".
Third, she owed that money to the mortgage company anyway.
Finally, I'm not making a profit on the rent. They are paying the exact amount of the mortgage payment.
Does she have a chance in court with this? She left me with either "use her tax return to pay the mortgage" or "foreclosure, then bankruptcy". Honestly, I feel like I should have taken the whole $1300, plus $200 from her direct deposited paycheck. If she pursues this, I intend to countersue for the remaining $700 I paid out of pocket. I'm trying to get my life together and move on, while she is shirking her responsibilities. Which is typical, we split because she developed a drug problem.
Long story short: Was in a relationship for 10 years. We have a mortgage together and had a joint bank account. When we split up, she agreed (verbally) to live in the house and pay the mortgage, while I moved out of state. After about two months of living there, she stopped paying the mortgage, sending it in default. Since the bank was sending mail to both of us at the house, she received all the mail about the past due payments.
She had intended to have the house foreclosed upon without my knowledge. I found out by luck because a friend mentioned he heard she was moving out. By the time I found out about it, it was 3 and a half months overdue. I paid a payment out of pocket, then negotiated with the mortgage company to catch up on the past due amounts while I looked for renters to put in the house. By the time she vacated the house, she had been living there for over 4 months without paying a dime. She also left it a complete mess, it took four people 4 hours to clean it.
So, as I'm paying the past due amounts, which was ~$350 x 4 payments + late fees, about $1500, I notice she is still using our joint account.
I waited until she deposited her tax return in it ($1300), took $800 from that and gave it to the mortgage company, catching up with all the payments. This was about 2 months ago. She texted me last night saying if I didn't return the $800 or give her half the money from the renters I'd be hearing from her lawyer.
First, I don't think she has a lawyer, and if she does, I don't think the lawyer knows the whole story. For example, she brought in a roommate "to help pay the mortgage" (which didn't get paid).
Second, it was a joint account over 6 years old that we had both used. Just because the last amount that landed in the account was her tax return, I don't see it as "hers".
Third, she owed that money to the mortgage company anyway.
Finally, I'm not making a profit on the rent. They are paying the exact amount of the mortgage payment.
Does she have a chance in court with this? She left me with either "use her tax return to pay the mortgage" or "foreclosure, then bankruptcy". Honestly, I feel like I should have taken the whole $1300, plus $200 from her direct deposited paycheck. If she pursues this, I intend to countersue for the remaining $700 I paid out of pocket. I'm trying to get my life together and move on, while she is shirking her responsibilities. Which is typical, we split because she developed a drug problem.