Burial troubles

[jonascale]

Missouri,

If a father as part of his last wishes puts his daughters name on his tombstone so she has a place to rest as part of a dule plot. Can his ex-wife sue his family for damages for carrying out his wishes?

 

[Shadowbunny]

Missouri,

If a father as part of his last wishes puts his daughters name on his tombstone so she has a place to rest as part of a dule plot. Can his ex-wife sue his family for damages for carrying out his wishes?

Can she sue? Yes. Will she win? Just based on the very, very limited amount of information you provided, it's doubtful.

 

[Silverplum]

Missouri,

If a father as part of his last wishes puts his daughters name on his tombstone so she has a place to rest as part of a dule plot. Can his ex-wife sue his family for damages for carrying out his wishes?

This sounds like something you should discuss with a local civil attorney. I suppose there's more to the story.

 

[quincy]

Missouri,

If a father as part of his last wishes puts his daughters name on his tombstone so she has a place to rest as part of a dule plot. Can his ex-wife sue his family for damages for carrying out his wishes?

What damages?

 

[Proserpina]

I REALLY hope this is a homework question.

Bar exams are coming up end of Oct, aren't they?

 

[jonascale]

This sounds like something you should discuss with a local civil attorney. I suppose there's more to the story.

It goes kinda like this. My uncle died two years ago from caner. Today my father was informed via text that his ex-wife wants the daughters name removed or intends to sue him for physiological damages done to her daughter after she noticed that her name was on the stone. Not only is it against his brothers final wishes but very expensive and difficult as the only way to accomplish this is to remove the stone and replace it with a new one.

 

[quincy]

It goes kinda like this. My uncle died two years ago from caner. Today my father was informed via text that his ex-wife wants the daughters name removed or intends to sue him for physiological damages done to her daughter after she noticed that her name was on the stone. Not only is it against his brothers final wishes but very expensive and difficult as the only way to accomplish this is to remove the stone and replace it with a new one.

How old is the daughter?

 

[Proserpina]

It goes kinda like this. My uncle died two years ago from caner. Today my father was informed via text that his ex-wife wants the daughters name removed or intends to sue him for physiological damages done to her daughter after she noticed that her name was on the stone. Not only is it against his brothers final wishes but very expensive and difficult as the only way to accomplish this is to remove the stone and replace it with a new one.

You mean psychological, right?

Maybe someone can put this together for me. But exactly why does Uncle's ex-wife think she has any say in the matter at all?

 

[LdiJ]

You mean psychological, right?

Maybe someone can put this together for me. But exactly why does Uncle's ex-wife think she has any say in the matter at all?

The daughter might be a minor.

jonascale, you are making us pull teeth to get even the most basic information from you. Its really difficult to give you any valid advice.

 

[Proserpina]

The daughter might be a minor.

jonascale, you are making us pull teeth to get even the most basic information from you. Its really difficult to give you any valid advice.

I get that the daughter might be a minor, but this guy was her father - I'm genuinely puzzled about who thinks they can do what in this situation.

Why is this causing so much angst? What's so bad about having your name on a burial plot? It's very, very commonly done. What's Mom's problem? Who does she think she can sue? Why? Does she override him? Why are the remaining family members responsible for what the now-deceased father did?

Help me out here.

 

[Ohiogal]

I REALLY hope this is a homework question.

Bar exams are coming up end of Oct, aren't they?

No. The Bar is held in February and July. Results come out end of October and end of May.

 

[LdiJ]

I get that the daughter might be a minor, but this guy was her father - I'm genuinely puzzled about who thinks they can do what in this situation.

Why is this causing so much angst? What's so bad about having your name on a burial plot? It's very, very commonly done. What's Mom's problem? Who does she think she can sue? Why? Does she override him? Why are the remaining family members responsible for what the now-deceased father did?

Help me out here.

Pro, its not her name on the plot that is causing angst. Her name is on the TOMBSTONE...and not as "beloved father of Jane" but as "Jane" who is eventually going to be buried there.

It would creep me out a bit to have my name on a Tombstone like that and I am a 58 year old adult. I can certainly imagine it creeping out a teenager or young adult. On top of that who is to say that said person would want to be buried next to her father at the end of her lifetime? Her life choices may make that totally inappropriate for her. Heck her name might even end up being different than what is on the tombstone.

All in all, I think that was one wish of dad's that should not have been honored without everyone, and particularly the daughter, being on board with it.

 

[Ohiogal]

Pro, its not her name on the plot that is causing angst. Her name is on the TOMBSTONE...and not as "beloved father of Jane" but as "Jane" who is eventually going to be buried there.

It would creep me out a bit to have my name on a Tombstone like that and I am a 58 year old adult. I can certainly imagine it creeping out a teenager or young adult. On top of that who is to say that said person would want to be buried next to her father at the end of her lifetime? Her life choices may make that totally inappropriate for her. Heck her name might even end up being different than what is on the tombstone.

All in all, I think that was one wish of dad's that should not have been honored without everyone, and particularly the daughter, being on board with it.

I have to agree with this. If the child were already deceased that would be one thing to have dad buried next to her. But to have a living child and put the child's name on the tombstone ...

 

[Proserpina]

I'll let my backspacing skills get some practice. It's not worth the time-out.

Insert saccharin-laced smile here.

 

[FlyingRon]

Just because someone puts the instruction like that in his will doesn't mean anybody is obligated to act upon it. Why would the ex-wife even spend the money if this is her attitude?