34thebeach
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
California
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
This is a little long but PLEASE READ and help if you can.
I have a bit of a complicated situation and REALLY need some help as I cannot afford a lawyer.
A woman I had sex with once in 1990 had a child in 1991 but did not tell me about the child until 1994. I sued her for paternity and was awarded joint custody, visitation and I stipulated to paying $300 a month child support. I paid my child support every month until late 2000 with this woman and my daughter. disappeared. Not to bore anyone with details, but I thought I would be able to find her or would hear from her and did not want to drag the cops and courts into it. The court ordered me to pay the child support to her directly which I always did.
As things happen time passed and I continued to try and find her to no avail. She had closed the bank account where my bank wired the child support to each month and the mother gave me nor the bank any forwarding address or contact information and did not contact me for the support. She was in violation of several stipulations of the court order. I realize now that I should have involved the courts and cops.
I finally found them in early 2008. From 1994 until they disappeared I paid my child support each month. I contacted my daughter via a social media network in 2008 and then wrote her mother about seeing my daughter. I had lived out of state for many years at this time. We met and I had the opportunity to spend time with my daughter shortly thereafter in California. When the mother and I met I pulled her aside and told her we needed to discuss getting any an all issues resolved as we moved forward.
I tried repeatedly to discuss these issues with the mother but she would not respond. In late 2009 I was contacted by San Diego County about back child support. It seems the mother went to the County in early 2008 after I had gone to California to see my daughter for the first time in 8 years and made false claims and signed documents stating that I had never paid her any child support and that I had only given her a total of $410 during all these years.
I contacted the County on several occasions and told them she was lying and that I had paid support as ordered and that she had concealed my daughter from me for 8 years. They of course did not care what she had done and told me I have to prove I paid her. Luckily I am a pack rat and have been able to find almost all of the canceled checks and wire transfers and bank statements for the monies I paid all those years.
They now have a $108,000 "judgment" on my credit and my passport has been revoked. I travel for my work. S
OOO what is my question?
Can I sue her for fraud, filing false documents, contempt of court and intentional infliction of emotional distress, defamation of character etc? And can I get the DA to press criminal charges against her as well for filing false documents and making false claims to government officials?
Any help or guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Good Dad in a bad situation...
California
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
This is a little long but PLEASE READ and help if you can.
I have a bit of a complicated situation and REALLY need some help as I cannot afford a lawyer.
A woman I had sex with once in 1990 had a child in 1991 but did not tell me about the child until 1994. I sued her for paternity and was awarded joint custody, visitation and I stipulated to paying $300 a month child support. I paid my child support every month until late 2000 with this woman and my daughter. disappeared. Not to bore anyone with details, but I thought I would be able to find her or would hear from her and did not want to drag the cops and courts into it. The court ordered me to pay the child support to her directly which I always did.
As things happen time passed and I continued to try and find her to no avail. She had closed the bank account where my bank wired the child support to each month and the mother gave me nor the bank any forwarding address or contact information and did not contact me for the support. She was in violation of several stipulations of the court order. I realize now that I should have involved the courts and cops.
I finally found them in early 2008. From 1994 until they disappeared I paid my child support each month. I contacted my daughter via a social media network in 2008 and then wrote her mother about seeing my daughter. I had lived out of state for many years at this time. We met and I had the opportunity to spend time with my daughter shortly thereafter in California. When the mother and I met I pulled her aside and told her we needed to discuss getting any an all issues resolved as we moved forward.
I tried repeatedly to discuss these issues with the mother but she would not respond. In late 2009 I was contacted by San Diego County about back child support. It seems the mother went to the County in early 2008 after I had gone to California to see my daughter for the first time in 8 years and made false claims and signed documents stating that I had never paid her any child support and that I had only given her a total of $410 during all these years.
I contacted the County on several occasions and told them she was lying and that I had paid support as ordered and that she had concealed my daughter from me for 8 years. They of course did not care what she had done and told me I have to prove I paid her. Luckily I am a pack rat and have been able to find almost all of the canceled checks and wire transfers and bank statements for the monies I paid all those years.
They now have a $108,000 "judgment" on my credit and my passport has been revoked. I travel for my work. S
OOO what is my question?
Can I sue her for fraud, filing false documents, contempt of court and intentional infliction of emotional distress, defamation of character etc? And can I get the DA to press criminal charges against her as well for filing false documents and making false claims to government officials?
Any help or guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Good Dad in a bad situation...