Sorry if this is in the wrong place, feel free to move if it is. Not sure where to put it.
To make a long story short (because believe me, it is long, very very long.)
I'm 20. (Yes, significant to the story.)
My best friend was 16 now 17. His mother emotionally and mentally abuses him. On March 23rd he tried to attempt suicide after the situation escalated and demanded I call the suicide hotline for him, which I did. He signed off, didn't know if he was alive anymore so I called his house. The mother answered and freaked out on me blaming me for being the reason he went suicidal, saying I brainwashed him, influenced him, and fabricated the idea of abuse and suicide into his head.
Next day and all that week he calls me from the hospital/psych ward after I cried my eyes out over thinking he was dead and such the night before. (Mother wouldn't tell me if he was alive or not.) It continues like that till his mother catches wind and isolates us, by telling the doctors to monitor his phone calls and let him contact no one but family.
Desperate I try to reason with his family by calling, emailing, and every attempt. Eventually he gets discharged but his home life is hell. Monitored everywhere he goes, can't even go in his own backyard. Computer, cell phone, and any means of contact to the outside world taken away, treated like a prisoner in his own house. He decided to run away. Comes here. (My house. He's in California, I'm in Arizona.) It was great till the cops took him back after a week of fun.
When the cops show up to take him back, they served me with a TRO (temporary restraining order. Not to contact any of his family or his mother, though he doesn't want to be on it. She's forcing him due to him being a minor.) He's taken back and put in another psych ward.
TRO says I basically influenced, brainwashed, manipulated him. Enticed him to run away across state line. And says I'm using propaganda.
He contacts me despite the order a few times from the hospital to help me fight the TRO. I send in my answer document along with chatlogs, emails, and site topics backing up my side of the story. I wait till the hearing date and go to California on the 27th of May. (Recently.)
I lost the hearing which was a civil harassment case. Not because she proved harassment though. But because she lied in court saying he was getting better without internet or contact from his friends, playing sports, and being social things he never did. (Lies) And because he's autistic he can't testify. (Judge wanted him to at first until the mother pulled out a doctors note which diagnoges 'brainwashing,' as a serious case. Ummm since when is brainwashing real or a disorder outside of military and stockholm syndrome?)
Judge lets her win in 'interest of the boy,' since they feel they have him on the path to improvement. A permanent restraining order, but only for 6 months. (He's 18 in April, order ends in november. So he'll still be a minor and mother can re-issue.)
I feel I can appeal it, since it was a legal error as civil harassment was never proven and running away or brainwashing has nothing to do with harassment (which was the point we were there for NOT anything else.) But I may lose.
....I'm torn up over this. In despair. He's my best friend that I might not see till 18 again. I can't mentally abide by that order. Eventually I'm gonna go to jail because depression will sooner or later overrule common sense and I'll end up trying to reason with his family or talk to him again. I just can't take it anymore. I lay here worried for weeks like I did when he was in the psych ward the first time. Wondering if he's alright, wondering what's happening, how I can help. When I fully no I can't.
What makes it worse is I found out what his home life is. His mother's got him on a caretaker monitoring. She hired 4 caretakers that rotate. One of them is ALWAYS with him 24/7, they live in the home. Any time he laves the house or goes in his backyard, one is always with him. He rides a private bus to school that one rides with him as well, and no one is allowed to lend him their phone... WHAT KIND OF MOTHER DOES THIS TO THEIR KID?
....But I can't take it. What more can I do? Does anyone live in California that can give me law advice? Or just anyone out there that can give me some advice on what more I can do to cope or fight it? Losing my mind here. I would die for this friend, get arrested. Anything to help this friend and the injustice he is going through due to our legal system treating minors.
To make a long story short (because believe me, it is long, very very long.)
I'm 20. (Yes, significant to the story.)
My best friend was 16 now 17. His mother emotionally and mentally abuses him. On March 23rd he tried to attempt suicide after the situation escalated and demanded I call the suicide hotline for him, which I did. He signed off, didn't know if he was alive anymore so I called his house. The mother answered and freaked out on me blaming me for being the reason he went suicidal, saying I brainwashed him, influenced him, and fabricated the idea of abuse and suicide into his head.
Next day and all that week he calls me from the hospital/psych ward after I cried my eyes out over thinking he was dead and such the night before. (Mother wouldn't tell me if he was alive or not.) It continues like that till his mother catches wind and isolates us, by telling the doctors to monitor his phone calls and let him contact no one but family.
Desperate I try to reason with his family by calling, emailing, and every attempt. Eventually he gets discharged but his home life is hell. Monitored everywhere he goes, can't even go in his own backyard. Computer, cell phone, and any means of contact to the outside world taken away, treated like a prisoner in his own house. He decided to run away. Comes here. (My house. He's in California, I'm in Arizona.) It was great till the cops took him back after a week of fun.
When the cops show up to take him back, they served me with a TRO (temporary restraining order. Not to contact any of his family or his mother, though he doesn't want to be on it. She's forcing him due to him being a minor.) He's taken back and put in another psych ward.
TRO says I basically influenced, brainwashed, manipulated him. Enticed him to run away across state line. And says I'm using propaganda.
He contacts me despite the order a few times from the hospital to help me fight the TRO. I send in my answer document along with chatlogs, emails, and site topics backing up my side of the story. I wait till the hearing date and go to California on the 27th of May. (Recently.)
I lost the hearing which was a civil harassment case. Not because she proved harassment though. But because she lied in court saying he was getting better without internet or contact from his friends, playing sports, and being social things he never did. (Lies) And because he's autistic he can't testify. (Judge wanted him to at first until the mother pulled out a doctors note which diagnoges 'brainwashing,' as a serious case. Ummm since when is brainwashing real or a disorder outside of military and stockholm syndrome?)
Judge lets her win in 'interest of the boy,' since they feel they have him on the path to improvement. A permanent restraining order, but only for 6 months. (He's 18 in April, order ends in november. So he'll still be a minor and mother can re-issue.)
I feel I can appeal it, since it was a legal error as civil harassment was never proven and running away or brainwashing has nothing to do with harassment (which was the point we were there for NOT anything else.) But I may lose.
....I'm torn up over this. In despair. He's my best friend that I might not see till 18 again. I can't mentally abide by that order. Eventually I'm gonna go to jail because depression will sooner or later overrule common sense and I'll end up trying to reason with his family or talk to him again. I just can't take it anymore. I lay here worried for weeks like I did when he was in the psych ward the first time. Wondering if he's alright, wondering what's happening, how I can help. When I fully no I can't.
What makes it worse is I found out what his home life is. His mother's got him on a caretaker monitoring. She hired 4 caretakers that rotate. One of them is ALWAYS with him 24/7, they live in the home. Any time he laves the house or goes in his backyard, one is always with him. He rides a private bus to school that one rides with him as well, and no one is allowed to lend him their phone... WHAT KIND OF MOTHER DOES THIS TO THEIR KID?
....But I can't take it. What more can I do? Does anyone live in California that can give me law advice? Or just anyone out there that can give me some advice on what more I can do to cope or fight it? Losing my mind here. I would die for this friend, get arrested. Anything to help this friend and the injustice he is going through due to our legal system treating minors.