so basically the law protects the person clever enough to use the law to screw someone over.You had options: you did not exercise them. You didn't take a court date seriously, and this is the result. No, you cannot file a "retaliatory" restraining order on the other person.
I was 100 percent sure that restraining orders were meant for people who actually physically HURT someone, not someone the you have never even met in person and just want to screw over because they used to date your boyfriend. So I am sorry for not "taking it seriously." We are not all well versed on how these things work.