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What is the name of your state? IL
My ex's sister informed me she is planning to sue my exhusband for about $20,000 (the amount she claims she loaned him during the time he and I were married combined with the $ she loaned and the total of the bills he wracked up while living with her after he & I divorced). Although it's my ex she says she's suing, I find it possible she'll file against me as well.
But would she have a legal leg to stand on to go after either/both of us?
I can't speak for AFTER he & I divorced, but I know that while he and I were married there where times she paid for in full or in part bills/debts. She'll likely have cancelled checks to prove this.
HOWEVER:
1) to the best of my knowledge and recollection, only ONE of those times that she did this was it ever stated that we were to pay her anything back. That amount was put in writing. We paid some back but ended up filing bankruptcy, and the balance was put in the bankruptcy.
2) It was my and my then-husband's understanding this was a "recipricol: arrangement. She "helped" us financially & we helped her in service related ways. She never paid us for our assistance, and we never asked her to. Same as she never asked us to repay her for her financial assistance (other than the ONE time we agreed in writing to repay one loan)
We lived next door to her for 3 years, and provided what most would consider nanny or aupair service and handy-man/maintenance service. We DAILY helped her with one or more of her 4 children (she was a single mom), transporting them to activities, babysitting, cooking meals, feeding them; sometimes spending entire weekends with 1 or more of the kids while she went out of town either for one child's sport activity or just to party; I cleaned her house; my then-husband did things on a regular basis like mowing her 2 acre property, trimming trees, fixing leaky plumbing and problem electrical stuff, etc.
When we moved a little further away (about 10 mi), my then-husband still went to her house to help out with handy-man issues whenever she called, put furniture together, mowed her property, etc.; and we still "babysat" and helped shuttle kids when she asked.
My ex's sister informed me she is planning to sue my exhusband for about $20,000 (the amount she claims she loaned him during the time he and I were married combined with the $ she loaned and the total of the bills he wracked up while living with her after he & I divorced). Although it's my ex she says she's suing, I find it possible she'll file against me as well.
But would she have a legal leg to stand on to go after either/both of us?
I can't speak for AFTER he & I divorced, but I know that while he and I were married there where times she paid for in full or in part bills/debts. She'll likely have cancelled checks to prove this.
HOWEVER:
1) to the best of my knowledge and recollection, only ONE of those times that she did this was it ever stated that we were to pay her anything back. That amount was put in writing. We paid some back but ended up filing bankruptcy, and the balance was put in the bankruptcy.
2) It was my and my then-husband's understanding this was a "recipricol: arrangement. She "helped" us financially & we helped her in service related ways. She never paid us for our assistance, and we never asked her to. Same as she never asked us to repay her for her financial assistance (other than the ONE time we agreed in writing to repay one loan)
We lived next door to her for 3 years, and provided what most would consider nanny or aupair service and handy-man/maintenance service. We DAILY helped her with one or more of her 4 children (she was a single mom), transporting them to activities, babysitting, cooking meals, feeding them; sometimes spending entire weekends with 1 or more of the kids while she went out of town either for one child's sport activity or just to party; I cleaned her house; my then-husband did things on a regular basis like mowing her 2 acre property, trimming trees, fixing leaky plumbing and problem electrical stuff, etc.
When we moved a little further away (about 10 mi), my then-husband still went to her house to help out with handy-man issues whenever she called, put furniture together, mowed her property, etc.; and we still "babysat" and helped shuttle kids when she asked.
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