harrassment & threats to ban from public places

[Beppy81]

I have a small problem with a person who is trying to tell me what places I can or cannot frequent. It seems silly because there are no grounds for this person to be doing this. I have been a regular patron of my local bars/clubs for quite sometime and after having a nasty split from this guy, who happens to work at a couple of these places, I'm suddenly dealing with him telling me that I'm not 'allowed' to go to my hangouts anymore. I have never inflicted any harm to him nor have I made any threats....I try to stay away from him if anything. He is not an owner/manager of these bars...he is just a dj. One, I might add, which has some serious control & self-importance issues. I'm seeking advice/answers about this because its not right for someone to try and dictate where i can go and have this effect on my personal life & social activities. While living in a small city, and not having too many places to go elsewhere, this latest threat of keeping me out of my favorite bars is crossing the line, especially when I have done nothing wrong. If he does end up having the pull to 'ban' me or get me kicked out (which he succeeded in doing this week from one place) I want to know if, LEGALLY, he has the right to do this? What about my rights? He told me if I tried to go again then I should just 'see whats going to happen'. If denied entrance, isn't there something that can be said on my behalf as far as what my legal rights are? I know this is pretty ridiculous & I shouldn't worry about it. . . but I am! Can someone give me some advice? I'll appreciate anything at this pointWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Beppy81

I have a small problem with a person who is trying to tell me what places I can or cannot frequent. It seems silly because there are no grounds for this person to be doing this. I have been a regular patron of my local bars/clubs for quite sometime and after having a nasty split from this guy, who happens to work at a couple of these places, I'm suddenly dealing with him telling me that I'm not 'allowed' to go to my hangouts anymore. I have never inflicted any harm to him nor have I made any threats....I try to stay away from him if anything. He is not an owner/manager of these bars...he is just a dj. One, I might add, which has some serious control & self-importance issues. I'm seeking advice/answers about this because its not right for someone to try and dictate where i can go and have this effect on my personal life & social activities. While living in a small city, and not having too many places to go elsewhere, this latest threat of keeping me out of my favorite bars is crossing the line, especially when I have done nothing wrong. If he does end up having the pull to 'ban' me or get me kicked out (which he succeeded in doing this week from one place) I want to know if, LEGALLY, he has the right to do this? What about my rights? He told me if I tried to go again then I should just 'see whats going to happen'. If denied entrance, isn't there something that can be said on my behalf as far as what my legal rights are? I know this is pretty ridiculous & I shouldn't worry about it. . . but I am! Can someone give me some advice? I'll appreciate anything at this pointWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

If the bar-owner has given him carte blanche to decide who may or may not enter or be served at the establishment then yes, your ex-friend is allowed to refuse to serve you and/or have you escorted off the premises if necessary. You have no inherent right to be somewhere the owner/manager doesn't want you to be and they don't need to give you a reason for their decision.

With that said, if you're really bothered about it you could try talking to the Owner/manager who may not be aware of the situation at all.

ETA: ah heck, this of course only applies to US law. Listing your state would be rather helpful.

[cyjeff]

A bar is not a public place.

It is a private place... where the public can enter if allowed. If the owners say that you aren't allowed...or their agent... you can legally be barred from entry.