Online friend threatens me

[gakjelas]

Hello I need your help.

I have some problems. I have an online friend, he is from U.S.A works in South Korea. I knew him about a year ago and we have met twice in Korea. Before we met, we used to communicate with messenger and do sex webcam. When I was there he took pictures of me naked. And I just knew that he also recorded my webcam when he was looking at me on webcam.

I think we can not get along so I want to stay away from him. I have a new boyfriend. But then he starts to threaten me. He keeps reminding me that he has my naked pictures and videos and he will show them to my family and friends. I have his pictures too and I said that I could do the same. But he seems not afraid like me.

I want to stay away from him and I don't want to know about him anymore forever. But I still cant be calm because he still has my naked pictures and videos that he can share anytime now or in the future.

I don't know what to do. I want him to delete my videos and pictures and not to disturb each other in the future. How can it work? I plan to go to Korea to make an agreement on paper and hope he will sign it, will it work in international law? He is an American and I am an Indonesian. And we will make this agreement in Korea. Thanks for reading. I need your advice. I'm waiting for your reply.

Thank youWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

[Skyymiles]

Originally Posted by gakjelas

Hello I need your help.

I have some problems. I have an online friend, he is from U.S.A works in South Korea. I knew him about a year ago and we have met twice in Korea. Before we met, we used to communicate with messenger and do sex webcam. When I was there he took pictures of me naked. And I just knew that he also recorded my webcam when he was looking at me on webcam.

I think we can not get along so I want to stay away from him. I have a new boyfriend. But then he starts to threaten me. He keeps reminding me that he has my naked pictures and videos and he will show them to my family and friends. I have his pictures too and I said that I could do the same. But he seems not afraid like me.

I want to stay away from him and I don't want to know about him anymore forever. But I still cant be calm because he still has my naked pictures and videos that he can share anytime now or in the future.

I don't know what to do. I want him to delete my videos and pictures and not to disturb each other in the future. How can it work? I plan to go to Korea to make an agreement on paper and hope he will sign it, will it work in international law? He is an American and I am an Indonesian. And we will make this agreement in Korea. Thanks for reading. I need your advice. I'm waiting for your reply.

Thank youWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

US law only, unfortunately in this forum section the internet tends to immigrate other national intrests. Bottom line in your case, you made some decisions you're both not proud of but you cannot confiscate the media he has saved on his computer legally just because you're 'moving on' with other relationships. If you want him to delete your video's I would suggest coercing him to use his own screen-capture software,(since he's apparently somewhat techsavvy) to proove to you he can be trustworthy with you. I realize it's not what you want but sometimes, you just have to be manipulative to get what you 'really' want. It's going to be a matter of playing your cards right here. If he can send you the video of the data being erased, and you know what to look for ie. file names, sizes, dates when you 'cammed'... you really need to have access to his computer tho. If you're planning on taking a trip over there, u might consider asking for proof or to even let you peruse the files. If he really wants to be with you, he's going to do w/e it takes to make you happy at least for the now. I know that's really ****ty advice but it's about all I have minus some bruteforcing techniques, if you can even justify that. lol XD