In that case, I would have an attorney in New York review a copy of the cookbook and review the magazines, the website and wherever else this photo appears, to see if the unauthorized use of your image is an actionable one.
It is possible, based on what you have written, that you have a legitimate cause of action if the use of the photo can be seen as a promotion for or advertisement for the restaurant. But it would take a review of the photo itself and its use in the various places where it appears to determine this for sure.
The attorney you see can also advise you, if the attorney believes an action against the restaurant does have some merit under New York law, whether a suit would be worth your time and the costs it would take to pursue the matter in court. Compensation for the use of your image may, at the very least, be something you can seek.
New York covers the unauthorized use of photographs/images under their Civil Rights law, Article 5, sections 50 and 51, Right of Privacy/Publicity.