11yrs of Marriage, lived together for 3yrs

[cafe1414]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York

Hi, I was married at 19 and hubby kept me in another country for 5.5 yrs. Came back to the states to live with him for 3 yrs. Am now in grad school, living with parents in NY while he is living in upstate NY by himself for the last 2.5 yrs. Wanted to make the marriage work but he always has some excuse and doesn't want to live with me. He wants me to study instead. Am emotionally distraught. What are the grounds that I can file for divorce and how long will it take?

Thanks

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by cafe1414

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York

Hi, I was married at 19 and hubby kept me in another country for 5.5 yrs. Came back to the states to live with him for 3 yrs. Am now in grad school, living with parents in NY while he is living in upstate NY by himself for the last 2.5 yrs. Wanted to make the marriage work but he always has some excuse and doesn't want to live with me. He wants me to study instead. Am emotionally distraught. What are the grounds that I can file for divorce and how long will it take?

Thanks

You mention living in another country - are both of you US citizens?

[cafe1414]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

You mention living in another country - are both of you US citizens?

Well thanks to me he is a US citizen now.

[mistoffolees]

Originally Posted by cafe1414

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York

Hi, I was married at 19 and hubby kept me in another country for 5.5 yrs. Came back to the states to live with him for 3 yrs. Am now in grad school, living with parents in NY while he is living in upstate NY by himself for the last 2.5 yrs. Wanted to make the marriage work but he always has some excuse and doesn't want to live with me. He wants me to study instead. Am emotionally distraught. What are the grounds that I can file for divorce and how long will it take?

Thanks

In NY, you could argue cruel and inhuman treatment or perhaps abandonment.

An attorney shouldn't have any problem putting together a filing on the basis of what you described.

No one can predict how long it will take. If you and he agree on all the issues and the court in your county happens to have a reasonable backlog, it might be as short as 6 months or so. OTOH, if you fight over issues and/or if your court is backlogged, it could easily be over a year - or more.

One thing that IS certain - the sooner you get started, the sooner it will be over.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by cafe1414

Well thanks to me he is a US citizen now.

I just want to make sure - is he definitely a citizen or is he a permanent resident?

(I'm not doubting you at all, but the difference can have massive financial ramifications for you)

[cafe1414]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

I just want to make sure - is he definitely a citizen or is he a permanent resident?

(I'm not doubting you at all, but the difference can have massive financial ramifications for you)

No he's definitely a citizen