Brenda Sue
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Tennessee
On October 11th 2003,I married a man I had dated for 6 months who claimed to have no living relatives, he also claimed to be a recovering (15 years) alcoholic and drug addict. We married so quickly because my father was dying of Cancer and we wanted him to walk me down the aisle. This man did everything right...he asked my parents and my church if he could ask me for my hand in marriage (telling everyone of his undying love for me) and even proposed to me in front of my congregation! It was a whirlwind and I got caught up in it. The night of our Honeymoon his behavior began to get suspicious and wierd. He kept hiding in the bathroom! Four days after the wedding he came into our home completely enraged and tore it apart and then attempted to attack me! He began talking about aliens, the FBI, the CIA and microwaves dissolving our brain waves! He slipped out at night and came in at all hours of the morning. He started (week one) screaming in his sleep and kicking and punching! Any amount of questioning was ment with outragous and volatile behavior. Exactly 3 weeks after the wedding without any notice he completly vanished! I filed police reports and his junker car was found abandoned and partially set fire to with his wedding band on the front seat. The Police claimed to spend a few days searching for him and hen said they were closing the Missing Persons case due to "a witness" saying they saw him walking out of town with a backpack! He left behind all his belongings, including his glasses and bottom teeth! He didn't so much as take a comb! Meanwhile his bosses who were paying him "under the table" claimed he also left with over $3000.00 in cash which they refused to file a report on! The neighborhood came alive with stories about him sneaking out to smoke weed, shoot heroin and drink (alcohol) on a constant basis. A few of the female neighbors (who didn't know each other) came forward to say that days before the wedding he asked them what would happen if he was to get married and already BE MARRIED in other states. (Which brought to mind his astonishment that the courthouse didn't require divorce papers when signing for the marraige certificate.) I called several Lawyers and was told I could do nothing but wait on him to return and sign the divorce papers. I believe I was told this because at the time I was only employed part time and had no savings to draw from to pay a lawyer.
It has been since the first of November 2003 without a word or a sign. I really want to get a divorce and get this ended. I have begun working full time in a retail job and going to school. Please help me. What can I do?
On October 11th 2003,I married a man I had dated for 6 months who claimed to have no living relatives, he also claimed to be a recovering (15 years) alcoholic and drug addict. We married so quickly because my father was dying of Cancer and we wanted him to walk me down the aisle. This man did everything right...he asked my parents and my church if he could ask me for my hand in marriage (telling everyone of his undying love for me) and even proposed to me in front of my congregation! It was a whirlwind and I got caught up in it. The night of our Honeymoon his behavior began to get suspicious and wierd. He kept hiding in the bathroom! Four days after the wedding he came into our home completely enraged and tore it apart and then attempted to attack me! He began talking about aliens, the FBI, the CIA and microwaves dissolving our brain waves! He slipped out at night and came in at all hours of the morning. He started (week one) screaming in his sleep and kicking and punching! Any amount of questioning was ment with outragous and volatile behavior. Exactly 3 weeks after the wedding without any notice he completly vanished! I filed police reports and his junker car was found abandoned and partially set fire to with his wedding band on the front seat. The Police claimed to spend a few days searching for him and hen said they were closing the Missing Persons case due to "a witness" saying they saw him walking out of town with a backpack! He left behind all his belongings, including his glasses and bottom teeth! He didn't so much as take a comb! Meanwhile his bosses who were paying him "under the table" claimed he also left with over $3000.00 in cash which they refused to file a report on! The neighborhood came alive with stories about him sneaking out to smoke weed, shoot heroin and drink (alcohol) on a constant basis. A few of the female neighbors (who didn't know each other) came forward to say that days before the wedding he asked them what would happen if he was to get married and already BE MARRIED in other states. (Which brought to mind his astonishment that the courthouse didn't require divorce papers when signing for the marraige certificate.) I called several Lawyers and was told I could do nothing but wait on him to return and sign the divorce papers. I believe I was told this because at the time I was only employed part time and had no savings to draw from to pay a lawyer.
It has been since the first of November 2003 without a word or a sign. I really want to get a divorce and get this ended. I have begun working full time in a retail job and going to school. Please help me. What can I do?
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