What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
We have been separated for a year and a half now, he is in TX as well but with the military.
Married 7 years, 6 of those he was in the military.
I have made him two offers to which his reply is this "you dont hold all the cards". When asked what he means, he wont elaborate. I am representing myself and he has yet to get a lawyer, divorce was filed in Ohio.
My offers are not unreasonable in my opinion but this may be because I am involved and its a "forest for the trees" situation so I thought I would get some input.
#1 involves splitting the debt 50/50, spousal support if awarded, and 50% of his retirement for the 6 years I have vested interest. Total payed by him over the course of his retirement= about 150,000
#2 is splitting the debt 50/50 and spousal support till I am finished with school (2 years) and as part of that while splitting the debt, I am asking that he take the car debt but I keep the car since I took the only car that was still being paid on of the 4 we had at the time. Including his antique 67 Chevy C10. It was financed through the military and is directly allotted from his check. Im not saying to take that on top of the split debt, just as one of this things... In turn I am willing to pay the time share we have and let him retain ownership. Total paid by him for this arrangement is 34,000...
He is saying he will NOT pay for a car I retain in my possession. This is to allow me to stay in school till I finish without worry of making the payment that is so large and being stranded. (I do work part time and have a small home based business and two kiddos) the other debts, the payments are small but the debt larger. And I am saying to split them evenly.
Am I being unreasonable?
The only thing he has tossed in my face was taking the savings we had when I left, I have proof... written and email, with reasons, from him that says he told me to take it. Although that is not what he tells other people. He also seems hung up on the semantics of when I left. He was deployed at the time I told him I was leaving (adultery by him resulting in a child) in january... I remained in the home until the children finished school in June. He had come home in May but was not residing in the home.. He says I left him for another man, in June... though I told him I was leaving in Jan. (a good reason to NOT date till a divorce is final!)
My only other concern is the Judge on my case. Her husband is military and I worry that she will be sympathetic to him for that reason. Though on the flip side she has been an advocate of women lawyers for girls in high schools in the area and I am a first year law student. Should I be worried?
I am thinking of going down to her court room and listening to her rule cases to get a feel for her.
Im honestly open to any input you may have.
We have been separated for a year and a half now, he is in TX as well but with the military.
Married 7 years, 6 of those he was in the military.
I have made him two offers to which his reply is this "you dont hold all the cards". When asked what he means, he wont elaborate. I am representing myself and he has yet to get a lawyer, divorce was filed in Ohio.
My offers are not unreasonable in my opinion but this may be because I am involved and its a "forest for the trees" situation so I thought I would get some input.
#1 involves splitting the debt 50/50, spousal support if awarded, and 50% of his retirement for the 6 years I have vested interest. Total payed by him over the course of his retirement= about 150,000
#2 is splitting the debt 50/50 and spousal support till I am finished with school (2 years) and as part of that while splitting the debt, I am asking that he take the car debt but I keep the car since I took the only car that was still being paid on of the 4 we had at the time. Including his antique 67 Chevy C10. It was financed through the military and is directly allotted from his check. Im not saying to take that on top of the split debt, just as one of this things... In turn I am willing to pay the time share we have and let him retain ownership. Total paid by him for this arrangement is 34,000...
He is saying he will NOT pay for a car I retain in my possession. This is to allow me to stay in school till I finish without worry of making the payment that is so large and being stranded. (I do work part time and have a small home based business and two kiddos) the other debts, the payments are small but the debt larger. And I am saying to split them evenly.
Am I being unreasonable?
The only thing he has tossed in my face was taking the savings we had when I left, I have proof... written and email, with reasons, from him that says he told me to take it. Although that is not what he tells other people. He also seems hung up on the semantics of when I left. He was deployed at the time I told him I was leaving (adultery by him resulting in a child) in january... I remained in the home until the children finished school in June. He had come home in May but was not residing in the home.. He says I left him for another man, in June... though I told him I was leaving in Jan. (a good reason to NOT date till a divorce is final!)
My only other concern is the Judge on my case. Her husband is military and I worry that she will be sympathetic to him for that reason. Though on the flip side she has been an advocate of women lawyers for girls in high schools in the area and I am a first year law student. Should I be worried?
I am thinking of going down to her court room and listening to her rule cases to get a feel for her.
Im honestly open to any input you may have.
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