Adultery

[jcarter]

What is the name of your state? Tennessee

If adultery was admitted too, will he have to name whom with? What if he doesn't?

[AHA]

Originally Posted by jcarter

What is the name of your state? Tennessee

If adultery was admitted too, will he have to name whom with? What if he doesn't?

Does it really matter who with?????? Shouldn't the focus be on his betrayal, full stop?

[jcarter]

Originally Posted by AHA

Does it really matter who with?????? Shouldn't the focus be on his betrayal, full stop?

In the interrogatories, it asks him to state whom. If he doesn't, can or will the court make him?

[Silverplum]

From what I've googled, TN is a state that does not require "fault" to grant divorce.

Do you WANT a long and ugly battle?

[jcarter]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

From what I've googled, TN is a state that does not require "fault" to grant divorce.

Do you WANT a long and ugly battle?

No, I don't..... but let me rephrase the statement..... He is not the one that admitted to the adultery.... it was I, now they are wanting me to state whom, when, where..... and I don't want to name the person..... to me it should not matter to him..... but I have been told that if I don't answer this question, then he could take me in front of the judge, and he can order me to tell or make me go to jail. What should I do?

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by jcarter

No, I don't..... but let me rephrase the statement..... He is not the one that admitted to the adultery.... it was I, now they are wanting me to state whom, when, where..... and I don't want to name the person..... to me it should not matter to him..... but I have been told that if I don't answer this question, then he could take me in front of the judge, and he can order me to tell or make me go to jail. What should I do?

Frankly, you should have been straight-up in your first post. Instead you chose to write in a misleading fashion. We don't appreciate that.

Get an attorney, or at least a consultation with an attorney who specializes in family law.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

From what I've googled, TN is a state that does not require "fault" to grant divorce.

Do you WANT a long and ugly battle?

The OP might be the other woman rather than the wife...LOL...she may not want anyone to know.

[ILOVEMYGSM3]

unspoken law-called the homewreckers law...in some states(i'm unsure if this was real, bear with me lol)

if a person broke up a marriage, they were enabled to be sued by the inujured spouse for pain and suffering, and some other crap...this was mainly aimed at women....and wether the suit included proprety gain, monetary or anything else, the court considered suitable...
in some countries, if you have sex before your marriage, or outside of your marriage, you can be legally killed(i'm sure by now that has changed, but you never know right?!)

i've had others tell me it was mostly in the southern states, where marriage was more "final" than in the north and west...

if this was a real law, could you imagine how many women would collect ss/cs, and an amount for p & s from a mistress/suitor???


ahhh, the good ole days...(no i didnt break up b/f's marriage, they had already filed when we met) but my husband kept his g/f after we married...and her income is fantastic!!!!!

hehe sorry had to be smart, been in dumps all day

[rmet4nzkx]

Originally Posted by jcarter

What is the name of your state? Tennessee

If adultery was admitted too, will he have to name whom with? What if he doesn't?

Tennessee has both no fault and fault grounds for divorce, therefore, these are valid questions and you have to answer them. You can therefore expect that these facts will play a role in settlements and custody.
Any of the following grounds may be used for divorce in Tennessee:


* No Fault
o Irreconcilable differences;

* Fault Based Grounds
o impotence;
o adultery;
o conviction of a felony and imprisonment;
o alcoholism and/or drug addiction;
o wife is pregnant by another at the time of marriage - without husband's knowledge;
o willful desertion for 1 year
o bigamy;
o endangering the life of the spouse;
o commission and/or conviction of an infamous crime;
o refusing to move to Tennessee with a spouse and willfully absenting oneself from a new residence for 2 years.
o Living separate and apart for 2 years without cohabitation when there are no minor children. This was added for the specific purpose of allowing John Bragg (a long time member of the Tennessee legislature) to get a divorce.

[rmet4nzkx]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

From what I've googled, TN is a state that does not require "fault" to grant divorce.

Do you WANT a long and ugly battle?

While it is possible to obtain a no fault divorce in TN they actually have a long list of "fault" grounds for divorce, why wouldn't an injured spouse divorce using Adultery?

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by rmet4nzkx

While it is possible to obtain a no fault divorce in TN they actually have a long list of "fault" grounds for divorce, why wouldn't an injured spouse divorce using Adultery?

why would they??

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by rmet4nzkx

While it is possible to obtain a no fault divorce in TN they actually have a long list of "fault" grounds for divorce, why wouldn't an injured spouse divorce using Adultery?

They sure can.
I was just pointing out that it would be ugly ~ and the first q was written as if OP was the one pursuing the adultery angle.

[rmet4nzkx]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

They sure can.
I was just pointing out that it would be ugly ~ and the first q was written as if OP was the one pursuing the adultery angle.

But pointing out that it is ugly doesn't answer the question objectively or state the law. See the difference? AFTER that is answered we can delve into what options exist based on the facts, but aparently someone has already filed for divorce where Adultery is already admitted if interrogatories are issued. We need to focus on the questions, not debate how it might be in a perfect world where people tell the truth and don't do hurtful or unfair things.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by rmet4nzkx

But pointing out that it is ugly doesn't answer the question objectively or state the law. See the difference? AFTER that is answered we can delve into what options exist based on the facts, but aparently someone has already filed for divorce where Adultery is already admitted if interrogatories are issued. We need to focus on the questions, not debate how it might be in a perfect world where people tell the truth and don't do hurtful or unfair things.

Yes, I do see the difference. But I was answering Post #1, hadn't seen Post #3, and I thought at that time it might be best to present another, more peaceful option. I also googled for OP and pointed out that no-fault was an option. That was a presentation of the law, of sorts -- a beginning of a discussion on legal possibilities. I don't regret my post/s.

[rmet4nzkx]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

Yes, I do see the difference. But I was answering Post #1, hadn't seen Post #3, and I thought at that time it might be best to present another, more peaceful option. I also googled for OP and pointed out that no-fault was an option. That was a presentation of the law, of sorts -- a beginning of a discussion on legal possibilities. I don't regret my post/s.

Your second post was right on the money and also why we frequently ask questions before answering them. If you notice I also answered post #1 without seeing post #3 and provided an objective answer based on the facts presented and applicible law. While you went to the trouble to google you didn't provide an objective citation and jumped to an interpretation, not based on the facts such as they were, see? You knew Adultery was grounds for divorce and interrogatories had already been issued, filing a no fault was moot, answering the interrogatories was the issue no matter which party OP was.