Adultery/Desertion

My fiancee and I live in the state of KY. He has been divorced for three years. I believe, from what I know, his attorneys didn't do everything they could in his behalf and hes such a nice guy, he doesnt push. But his ex-wife is really becoming demanding and very controlling of everything including visits with his child. He was divorced after his wife left him, committed adultery with another man and took their child and went to Tenn with this man. My fianceee never knew what was even going on. He said his lawyer told him the adultery/desertion thing didnt make a difference in KY. His ex wife has custody of the child who is being neglected in discipline and possible mental health issues. We are wondering, is adultery/desertion grounds for divorce in KY and could he still pursue this? We are trying to find a way to try to gain custody of his child, whom, as I said, is having serious discipline and mental health issues. ANy help or info would be greatly appreciated.

WHOA! You are just getting started aren't you? Got a long way to go too!

To change the current custody arrangements he would have to prove a change of circumstances in his exes life that makes changing custody worthwhile.

Ladimyst, I am sure you are correct in your belief that your fiance is a nice guy. But that is not enough to be a good father. If the ex is making things difficult, he needs to decide (on his own) that he is willing to fight for a relationship with his kids. If you influence him to make that decision AND do the a large portion of the work, be prepared for strife in your relationship with him and your soon to be stepchild.

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His mother taught Little Johnny to say "Whisper," whenever he had to go tinkle.

One day Little Johnny's grandpa paid them a visit and was lying on the couch taking a nap. Little Johnny came up to him and said he had to whisper and grandpa, without opening his eyes, just said, "whisper in my ear, son."

When Little Johnny's mother heard a yell that carried for several blocks she came in and cried, "what's the matter, did Johnny have to whisper?"

The old man answered, "Yes, and thank God he didn't have to SHOUT!"