After 30 yrs he has left me

What is the name of your state? PA

My husband & I will have been married 30 years this fall, as of Dec 26 he decided to tell me that he was leaving me. I begged him to stay, so he stayed until around Feb. Th, then that night when I came in from work at 8:30 pm, he had dinner made, which is unusual for him to do and he talked to me for a while , listened to how my day went & then he sprung it on me . I begged him to not leave but to no avail, it was near 11:00 pm by the time he finally walked out the door that I was blocking with my body.

he says that I yell to much & that I will not change, I have tried everything I can think of to not be angry when I look at him but all he has to do is not put a dish towel on the hook & just throw it anyplace & it sets me off.

well that weekend the furnace quit working so he stopped in to fix it, when he got there I had all his belongings thrown in box's and piled in the living room, we talked after he got the furnaces running & I asked him what would make him happy, I said not including all the bills, ( we had been behind in all of our bills & he is thinking that we should file for bankruptcy.) He quote was "FREEDOM" so I said there are all your belongings get the F*** out!!! It tour me up I balled for hours while he neatly re packed his things & got trash bags to hull them to his mothers.

a few days later I changed the locks on all the door's, now he says he is not responsible for any of the bills

my question is

is he responsible to keep paying our mortgage & other bills
or is it up to me to get an attorney and attach his wages?

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally posted by CluelessinPA
What is the name of your state? PA

My husband & I will have been married 30 years this fall, as of Dec 26 he decided to tell me that he was leaving me. I begged him to stay, so he stayed until around Feb. Th, then that night when I came in from work at 8:30 pm, he had dinner made, which is unusual for him to do and he talked to me for a while , listened to how my day went & then he sprung it on me . I begged him to not leave but to no avail, it was near 11:00 pm by the time he finally walked out the door that I was blocking with my body.

he says that I yell to much & that I will not change, I have tried everything I can think of to not be angry when I look at him but all he has to do is not put a dish towel on the hook & just throw it anyplace & it sets me off.

well that weekend the furnace quit working so he stopped in to fix it, when he got there I had all his belongings thrown in box's and piled in the living room, we talked after he got the furnaces running & I asked him what would make him happy, I said not including all the bills, ( we had been behind in all of our bills & he is thinking that we should file for bankruptcy.) He quote was "FREEDOM" so I said there are all your belongings get the F*** out!!! It tour me up I balled for hours while he neatly re packed his things & got trash bags to hull them to his mothers.

a few days later I changed the locks on all the door's, now he says he is not responsible for any of the bills

my question is

is he responsible to keep paying our mortgage & other bills
or is it up to me to get an attorney and attach his wages?

My response:

Jesus Christ!

All of that nonsense for, "is he responsible to keep paying our mortgage & other bills"?

None of that, with the exception of "He walked out on me", had ANYTHING to do with "is he responsible to keep paying our mortgage & other bills".

Here's your answer: You're both responsible. Get an attorney.

IAAL

And I just about choked on my popcorn waiting for the commercial brake.

[HomeGuru]

Originally posted by Pfaffing85690
And I just about choked on my popcorn waiting for the commercial brake.

**A: winner of thread of the day. Take a break.

Seek an attorney for legal advice.
apparently he is confused.

ya'll need to listen up...it happends it hurts and then ya worry,some fall down some move on,but most that have put their time in fall down,and need a lil hand an lending ear,i put my 20 yrs in to find my ex not only left me but was with his new woman for 16 of the 20 i put in,we all get stuck-instupid,have a heart,and put the popcorn aside.

Not being negative. I don't how you interpet a message.
Great forum for advice and communication.