What is the name of your state? Arizona
I have been married 25 years to the same man. I caught him cheating on me 3 days after Christmas, changed the locks and hired an Attorney. He lied about it BEFORE I caught him, because I had suspected he was doing it, so he can't say I was ruthless. Now he wants me to use the cheap way out, and not drag it through the courts. If I use his person (non-attorney) to help file the paperwork, he is willing to give me all the contents of the house, help with the bills, and help with school until I get a good job. If I stick with my Lawyer and drag it through the courts, he is threatening to get ruthless and take every single thing he can, and not help me at all. He has had a good income so it would be very had for me to start over. We have no savings or money to split, and he used up all my inheritance on bills, down payments etc.. He is on the verge of making even MORE money (more than double what it is now) with a percentage of ownership. Do I agree with what he is offering, or should I stick with the Lawyer and hope to get more out of him in respect to his future wealth? This is a no-fault state and I've heard that judges aren't very generous with spousal support. It's a huge gamble. Most of my friends are saying stick with the Lawyer, but I don't have any moeny past the retainer fee to pay him, so that's another debt I could face. He is being cold-hearted, and wants out quick, because he thinks he's in "love" with this tramp, and because of his future potential.
I have been married 25 years to the same man. I caught him cheating on me 3 days after Christmas, changed the locks and hired an Attorney. He lied about it BEFORE I caught him, because I had suspected he was doing it, so he can't say I was ruthless. Now he wants me to use the cheap way out, and not drag it through the courts. If I use his person (non-attorney) to help file the paperwork, he is willing to give me all the contents of the house, help with the bills, and help with school until I get a good job. If I stick with my Lawyer and drag it through the courts, he is threatening to get ruthless and take every single thing he can, and not help me at all. He has had a good income so it would be very had for me to start over. We have no savings or money to split, and he used up all my inheritance on bills, down payments etc.. He is on the verge of making even MORE money (more than double what it is now) with a percentage of ownership. Do I agree with what he is offering, or should I stick with the Lawyer and hope to get more out of him in respect to his future wealth? This is a no-fault state and I've heard that judges aren't very generous with spousal support. It's a huge gamble. Most of my friends are saying stick with the Lawyer, but I don't have any moeny past the retainer fee to pay him, so that's another debt I could face. He is being cold-hearted, and wants out quick, because he thinks he's in "love" with this tramp, and because of his future potential.