What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? ct
I am starting to research the divorce process for a long overdue divorce. I have been married for 16 years and am a sahm to 4 children, ages 8, 9, 11 and 13.
I left work after my first child was born (now 13 years ago). Recently, I started to discuss going back to work and H was hostile about this. Very resistant to my working, calling it "selfish" even though my children are in school much of the year. In addition, he has been putting checks made out in both of our names into his own account and only puts a minimal amount of money in our joint account. This is the only money to which I have access and I feel severaly limited.
We have had long standing problems in our marriage, going back to the first couple of years when we were in counseling.
My H has noticed me distancing myself from him and has confronted me on the lack of sex. I told him that I feel controlled, and am upset with the inequities in our relationship and confided that I'd even spoken with an attorney.
Now that he is aware that I am seriously considering divorce, he has decided that I am in a lesbian relationship with someone I met a few years ago. When I first became friends with this woman, I discussed my new friendship openly with him. He, however, does not want me to have new friendships or friendships with women who are not married. He is very controlling about my friendships and social activities despite the fact that I've been a very actively engaged stay at home mother for 13 years.
I admit that I have spent time with this friend without his knowledge. I have not had a sexual relationship with her, but feel a close frieindship as she has been most supportive and has a different perspective on things (we live in a very conservative/religious community). My H is quite determined to use adultery as a ground for both decreasing alimony and for messing with custody (I don't know how he'd have the children without turning them over to a full time nanny as he chooses to work insane hours even though he owns his own business.)
Has anyone ever heard of such cases? I am quite blown away by this. I am amazed at how things can be taken out of context. What are the adultery "laws" in ct. and how is it defined? How would he "prove" to a judge that this is adultery?
Thanks in advance.
I am starting to research the divorce process for a long overdue divorce. I have been married for 16 years and am a sahm to 4 children, ages 8, 9, 11 and 13.
I left work after my first child was born (now 13 years ago). Recently, I started to discuss going back to work and H was hostile about this. Very resistant to my working, calling it "selfish" even though my children are in school much of the year. In addition, he has been putting checks made out in both of our names into his own account and only puts a minimal amount of money in our joint account. This is the only money to which I have access and I feel severaly limited.
We have had long standing problems in our marriage, going back to the first couple of years when we were in counseling.
My H has noticed me distancing myself from him and has confronted me on the lack of sex. I told him that I feel controlled, and am upset with the inequities in our relationship and confided that I'd even spoken with an attorney.
Now that he is aware that I am seriously considering divorce, he has decided that I am in a lesbian relationship with someone I met a few years ago. When I first became friends with this woman, I discussed my new friendship openly with him. He, however, does not want me to have new friendships or friendships with women who are not married. He is very controlling about my friendships and social activities despite the fact that I've been a very actively engaged stay at home mother for 13 years.
I admit that I have spent time with this friend without his knowledge. I have not had a sexual relationship with her, but feel a close frieindship as she has been most supportive and has a different perspective on things (we live in a very conservative/religious community). My H is quite determined to use adultery as a ground for both decreasing alimony and for messing with custody (I don't know how he'd have the children without turning them over to a full time nanny as he chooses to work insane hours even though he owns his own business.)
Has anyone ever heard of such cases? I am quite blown away by this. I am amazed at how things can be taken out of context. What are the adultery "laws" in ct. and how is it defined? How would he "prove" to a judge that this is adultery?
Thanks in advance.