What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
I am trying to decide whether i should divorce my husband, or is an annulment possible?
The marriage is a Hindu marriage in India but we live in Illinois. I have the following reasons for seeking a divorce - some possibly do not qualify as "legal grounds for divorce":
1. unconsummated marriage after 10 months of marriage.
2. erectile dysfunction (which he blamed me for, saying it was due to relationship stress, but i now know he had been getting off to porn 3 times a day).
3. he is a porn addict - he watches stuff like "scat sex", "puking sex", "slutty schoolgirls torn denim shorts".
4. i had asked him before marriage if he was into porn and fetishes, and he said he was into neither. i told him then i had zero tolerance for porn. Now I know he lied on both counts.
5. after i found he lied about porn, i investigated (checked his emails, etc.), and found out he had lied about a lot of things. he denies, minimizes, marginalizes, invalidates everything that puts him in a spot. he refuses to acknowledge responsibility unless caught red-handed, and even then tries to escape by deflecting the blame on me or some other such tactic.
6. he is joined at the hip with his parents - he is not emotionally weaned from them. he had to ask permission from them to date me, and again he asked them permission to marry me.
7. he earns more than 3 times what i do ( i just get a stipend, don't really have a job yet), but expects me to pay my share at HIS standard of living. after marriage i moved into his place and he had a more expensive place, a car, etc. it was not possible for me to pay what he demanded, and i found it strange that he would even want me to.
8. he does no share his money with me - his parents asked him not to, so that he can still get money from him, as they have before he was married. his parents are well off and don't need his money - they are simply greedy for more.
9. he lied about past romantic interests - he said they were pursuing him, whereas i found out actually he pursued them. i feel he was rejected by them, and he also has a bossy mother, which makes him a misogynist and he takes out his anger and bitterness towards women on me.
10. there is no emotional connection - he is always dazed, distant, with a tuned-out expression in his eyes. he does not respond when i talk of a problem, and does not encourage me in my interests and ambitions.
I am trying to decide whether i should divorce my husband, or is an annulment possible?
The marriage is a Hindu marriage in India but we live in Illinois. I have the following reasons for seeking a divorce - some possibly do not qualify as "legal grounds for divorce":
1. unconsummated marriage after 10 months of marriage.
2. erectile dysfunction (which he blamed me for, saying it was due to relationship stress, but i now know he had been getting off to porn 3 times a day).
3. he is a porn addict - he watches stuff like "scat sex", "puking sex", "slutty schoolgirls torn denim shorts".
4. i had asked him before marriage if he was into porn and fetishes, and he said he was into neither. i told him then i had zero tolerance for porn. Now I know he lied on both counts.
5. after i found he lied about porn, i investigated (checked his emails, etc.), and found out he had lied about a lot of things. he denies, minimizes, marginalizes, invalidates everything that puts him in a spot. he refuses to acknowledge responsibility unless caught red-handed, and even then tries to escape by deflecting the blame on me or some other such tactic.
6. he is joined at the hip with his parents - he is not emotionally weaned from them. he had to ask permission from them to date me, and again he asked them permission to marry me.
7. he earns more than 3 times what i do ( i just get a stipend, don't really have a job yet), but expects me to pay my share at HIS standard of living. after marriage i moved into his place and he had a more expensive place, a car, etc. it was not possible for me to pay what he demanded, and i found it strange that he would even want me to.
8. he does no share his money with me - his parents asked him not to, so that he can still get money from him, as they have before he was married. his parents are well off and don't need his money - they are simply greedy for more.
9. he lied about past romantic interests - he said they were pursuing him, whereas i found out actually he pursued them. i feel he was rejected by them, and he also has a bossy mother, which makes him a misogynist and he takes out his anger and bitterness towards women on me.
10. there is no emotional connection - he is always dazed, distant, with a tuned-out expression in his eyes. he does not respond when i talk of a problem, and does not encourage me in my interests and ambitions.
