Thanks for the information, however I am a little confused, see, what has happened is me the custodial parent was named as the designated beneficiary, but I was told that I was not going to get it because a wife has appeared with a marriage license, me only living with the man for 14 years and having his child I think that he felt that he was doing the right thing for the benefit of his child. I guess he did not know that since he never divorced this woman he had made it hard for me. He had not lived with her in 35 years but it does not seem to make a difference, I was told that she would get the retirement benefits, so do that mean I can't get the rear since it goes to her, they did tell me that my daugther would get benefits until age 23 if she stay in school.What can I do, do I have a leg to stand on