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    I'mtheluckyone is offline Junior Member
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    Unhappy Can a divorce decree be amended?

    What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

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    My divorce decree states that my ex and I would each pay half for college tuition, that was about 12 years ago. Since then, I put myself through college and now pay for that student loan. Now my oldest son who turned 18 in June is planning on attending college in the Fall. I also have two other sons who will be following in his footsteps. My problem is that I'm not able to afford paying half of each of their tuition and I believe that making them also responsible for 1/3 will help keep them focused on getting a real education. My ex refuses to cooperate with me on this and I also pay full child support for all three. To make matters worse, I also had to file for bankrupcy this past February. Is there anything I can do? Please help.
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    Quote Originally Posted by I'mtheluckyone View Post
    What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

    New York

    My divorce decree states that my ex and I would each pay half for college tuition, that was about 12 years ago. Since then, I put myself through college and now pay for that student loan. Now my oldest son who turned 18 in June is planning on attending college in the Fall. I also have two other sons who will be following in his footsteps. My problem is that I'm not able to afford paying half of each of their tuition and I believe that making them also responsible for 1/3 will help keep them focused on getting a real education. My ex refuses to cooperate with me on this and I also pay full child support for all three. To make matters worse, I also had to file for bankrupcy this past February. Is there anything I can do? Please help.
    You agreed. So therefore you have to pay half for college tuition. That is the problem. You could try for a modification but it may not be granted. If it is not granted then you need to find someway to come up with the money. You have a court ORDER not a suggestion.
    Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
    Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.

    Attorney-GAL in Ohio.

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    For how much longer will you be paying child support for the 18 year old?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dogmatique View Post
    For how much longer will you be paying child support for the 18 year old?
    Child support goes to age 21, particularly if the child is in school.

    OP...does your son qualify for any grants or scholarships? Can he get student loans?
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    I'mtheluckyone is offline Junior Member
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    My ex doesn't feel that our child should pay anything for his college tuition but I'm assuming he would qualify as I once did.
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    Quote Originally Posted by I'mtheluckyone View Post
    My ex doesn't feel that our child should pay anything for his college tuition but I'm assuming he would qualify as I once did.
    State WORD FOR WORD what the divorce decree orders regarding college tuition. You may not be able to make your child be responsible for ANY of the cost of higher education. Including by getting loans in HIS name.
    Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
    Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.

    Attorney-GAL in Ohio.

    I've removed the knife from my back, polished it, and will one day return it -- long after you think I have forgotten.
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    I'mtheluckyone is offline Junior Member
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    Regarding the divorce decree modification...

    Don't I at least have the right to see what I'm being asked to pay for? My ex isn't providing me with any paperwork. If I do move forward with a court hearing, can I represent myself and what exactly would I be asking for in court, it's not a modification of child support, what documents/forms do I need?

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