i tried the restraing order...but was told by the sheriffs office that they have to actually commit a crime against me and pestering me is not a crime....I gave the good child the full durable POA...the other two went ballistic and are threatening sueing for guardianship of the estate....Not of me the person, just my money property etc....I want to nip this thing in the bud before they tie me and/or the good child up in court...I do however get along fine with the children of the bad two and do not intend to cut them off...they, who also are adults do not agree with their parents either.
You need to get to an attorney NOW. The longer you wait, the easier it will be for them to challenge it.
1. Make sure you have a solid will. Your attorney will know how to write it so that it's difficult (if not impossible) to challenge. Leave your money to anyone you wish (the child you get along with, grandchildren, whoever).
2. I'm not surprised that you can't get a restraining order. I had an employee threaten to kill me when I fired him and then he slashed the bumper on my car and that was not sufficient (the judge said I had to receive two death threats).Even though you can't get a restraining order, you're free to not let them into your house. If you're somewhere else, tell your host that you're not interested in seeing them and request that they ask them to leave (or you can leave).
3. I would suggest that you meet with a counselor and possibly have testing done to support your statements that you are competent. In principle, they should not be able to win a competency hearing without some strong evidence, but if your counselor has administered a variety of tests which indicate that you're competent, it will make their challenge even less likely to succeed.
4. In addition to your will, talk with your attorney about a trust and power of attorney. If you set everything up while you're competent, then the 'bad' kids will have a hard time challenging it if you should become incompetent in the future.
5. If your assets are sufficient that you don't have to worry about running out of money, consider gifts while you're still alive.
One thing to think about is that if something happens to you, the 'bad' kids will make the other child's life a living hell. Are you prepared for that?