Can I stop her?

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What is the name of your state? CA

My wife and I trying to divorce. I filed the divorce, she gets very mad. We own a condo as a joint property. She moved out recently to a new place. We had a verbal agreement if she wants to come to get her stuff, she needs to let me know that we'll go over the possessions. To my suprise I come from work and seing that the majority of possessions are gone, the most valuable things, including my childhood photo albums, and my parents heritage jewlery that they gave me to pass it onto my future kids.

I tried calling her, she's not responding. I called the police, they said she can do whatever she wants, and I need to go Court for this.

We've been married for 7 years soon. I thought we'll be civilized realizing how incompatible we were. I offered a divorce 3 times in the past. But this time I actually filed, we agreed that I will be paying 60% of the shared bills (such as condo) before she leaves, since it's how much I earn more. Now she says I'll pay for her expenses including her new place rental, besides the profits from my career that I can have in the future (I'm trying to pursue music career). She works as a biologist, I'm an integration enginner.

I offered help with making less of an emotional and financial impact on both of us, but she can't accept that and flat out thinks I'm the evil one.

How can I stop her from coming to my place without a notice? How can I get back my personal items? How do I protect myself from harrassment?

Highly appreciated.

-V