Can Someone Help ME????

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? PA

I am going through a VERY BAD divorce. My husband and I are still married, he is living with another woman and has a baby with her. He cheated on me from the very begining. He has made promises to our daughter to help out with her school stuff and hasn't. Now he is trying to PUSH me into signing the paperwork for our divorce so that he can marry the other woman. He left ME with ALL the bills well OVER $20,000 and WON"T help me out. What I NEED to know is HOW LONG can I hold out and NOT sign the papers before he can make me? PLEASE someone help me. I am running out of money and my MIND!!!!

[nextwife]

So what is your attorney telling you? Please don't tell me you are trying to do a do-it-yourself divorce in this case!

Split the debt, split the assets. Try to do so in a way that will leave you able to have your name off debts he has responsibility for, and his name off debts you take over. Even if that means refinancing those debts.

Did you at least get a child support order? Hopefully BEFORE his girlfriend obtained one for her child?

[Gracie3787]

First, and you must repeat this to yourself as many times as it takes for you to fully understand it:

NO ONE CAN FORCE YOU TO SIGN ANYTHING

Now that that worry is out of the way, you need to get an attorney ASAP.

Your soon to be ex is trying to take advantage of you- DON'T LET HIM.

He wants you to pay all marital debts- DON'T DO IT.

He obviously doesn't care about your kids - IT'S UP TO YOU TO PROTECT THEM.

Do not, under any circumstances, sign anything without having an attorney read it, anf fully explain it to you.

Good luck.

[VeronicaGia]

Originally Posted by nicolina

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? PA

I am going through a VERY BAD divorce. My husband and I are still married, he is living with another woman and has a baby with her. He cheated on me from the very begining. He has made promises to our daughter to help out with her school stuff and hasn't. Now he is trying to PUSH me into signing the paperwork for our divorce so that he can marry the other woman. He left ME with ALL the bills well OVER $20,000 and WON"T help me out. What I NEED to know is HOW LONG can I hold out and NOT sign the papers before he can make me? PLEASE someone help me. I am running out of money and my MIND!!!!

Are you court ordered to pay all these bills? Is there even a divorce in process? Has anything been decided upon by a judge even temporarily? The longer you hold out, the longer this divorce will take and the more attorney's fees you'll be paying. And if you don't have an attorney, you need one yesterday.