melissa__46
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama
I will finally be filing for divorce Monday Feb.2 after 15 months of seperation. As some of you have read my other posts you know this is going to be a long ordeal because my inlaws are wanting to take my kids away. Little update and question, over christmas break my hopefully soon to be ex went hunting with his dad and when they came home they unloaded the truck and left everything on the couch. They left my 3 and 5 year old in the house and left a loaded gun sitting there. My 3 year old picked it up and shot a hole in the wall and through the couch. He could have so easily killed himself or my daughter. They didnt tell me about it.....my son (3 yo) told me when he got home. I had my father call and find out the details, I was too upset. When I could talk to the ex about it a few days later I asked him if they got the guns out of the house or locked them up or anything. He stated" no we aint gonna do nothing different, stuff happens". Ok, so I wouldnt let my kids go back over there until they had a lock on the door to the room with the gun cabinet.
We dont have a custody settled so I couldnt just say they werent allowed to go back.
Im wondering if this is going to help me in proving that I am the safest and more responsible parent.
Did I do the right thing in not letting them go back until locks were put in place or should I have not let them go at all?
And lastly, I am going to go for Sole Joint Custody now instead of True Joint, is that the right choice?
I will finally be filing for divorce Monday Feb.2 after 15 months of seperation. As some of you have read my other posts you know this is going to be a long ordeal because my inlaws are wanting to take my kids away. Little update and question, over christmas break my hopefully soon to be ex went hunting with his dad and when they came home they unloaded the truck and left everything on the couch. They left my 3 and 5 year old in the house and left a loaded gun sitting there. My 3 year old picked it up and shot a hole in the wall and through the couch. He could have so easily killed himself or my daughter. They didnt tell me about it.....my son (3 yo) told me when he got home. I had my father call and find out the details, I was too upset. When I could talk to the ex about it a few days later I asked him if they got the guns out of the house or locked them up or anything. He stated" no we aint gonna do nothing different, stuff happens". Ok, so I wouldnt let my kids go back over there until they had a lock on the door to the room with the gun cabinet.
We dont have a custody settled so I couldnt just say they werent allowed to go back.
Im wondering if this is going to help me in proving that I am the safest and more responsible parent.
Did I do the right thing in not letting them go back until locks were put in place or should I have not let them go at all?
And lastly, I am going to go for Sole Joint Custody now instead of True Joint, is that the right choice?